This Woman Wrote a Beautiful Testament to Her Transgender Husband on Their 14th Anniversary

This week on Reddit/r/LGBT, Hannah Akers proudly posted that she and her husband, Adam, were celebrating their 14th wedding anniversary. She also shared that it had been 18 years since Adam started transitioning.

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Hannah Akers

Amid the heartfelt congratulations and smile emojis were questions (mostly respectful): Where did they meet? Did their friends know? How did they have kids? When one user ask Hannah about her experience as a cisgender woman married to a transgender man, she generously opened up.

"We met at a church Bible study for young adults—He instantly hit it off with our group and started hanging out with us outside of the church. I always thought he was cute, but I was way too quite and insecure to ever ask him out."

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The Akers and their children. Hannah Akers

One of Hannah's friends was dating one of Adam's buddies and a double date was planned. "We ended up having an amazing night and we really hit it off. He asked me if I wanted to go out again sometime, just the two of us. Of course I said yes!"

It was on that second date that Adam told her he was trans.

"He wanted me to know before we got into anything serious," Hannah explained. "I won't lie, it disturbed me at first. But there was something magical that couldn't put anything between us."

They shared their first kiss that night. More dates—and more kisses—followed and, in 2005, they got married. Today, the couple are parents to four children—the youngest just 6 weeks old.

Adam froze his eggs before undergoing gender confirmation surgery and, with the help of a sperm donor, Hannah was inseminated and carried the babies to term.

"We wanted to feel like we both played a role in our pregnancies, like most heterosexual couples do," she said. "He has the genetic connection and I have the 'womb' connection. Four kiddos later and we wouldn't have it any other way."

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Hannah's husband provided the eggs and she provided the "womb connection" for their four children. Hannah Akers

Some redditors were surprised the Akers are still active in their church. But Hannah says her faith has always been a part of her life.

"Believe it or not, ALL of our bible study friends who found out supported us and never made either one of us feel guilty or uncomfortable. The guys in the group continued treating him like 'one of the guys' and my girlfriends admitted they were jealous because they all wanted to go out with him."

She assumes 25-30 percent of the congregation know Adam's history.

"It's not something we feel the need to advertise. He is who he is," she added. "I don't think anybody has ever figured out he's trans without being told by someone with knowledge of the situation. He truly has mastered the look and voice to the point where nobody bats an eye."

Their friends have been supportive and respectful. Hannah's parents, though, were a different story.

"I told them he was trans before they knew I was dating him," she revealed. "Initially, they said it was great that our group was including an LGBT person. They appeared to be fully supportive of the movement—much to my surprise!"

But her folks' tone changed when Hannah worked up the courage to tell them she and Adam were dating.

"They never directly said they didn't want me with a trans person. Instead they tried to come up with other reasons for him being a bad match with me."

She kept dating Adam, but admits things were "awkward" with her parents. But then her father was seriously injured and wound up being hospitalized for a whole month. Despite the tension, Adam came to the hospital nearly every day to check up on him.

"My dad has since admitted that the hospital bed was where he realized how wrong he was about my husband," Hannah shared. "He saw how much my man cared about me by being their for him during a tough time. My parents apologized to both of us for the way they previously acted."

A few months later, Hannah's dad gave Adam permission to propose. "It was the most beautiful change of heart ever," she says.

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It's estimated at least 1.4 million Americans are transgender. Getty Images

There have been a couple of people in their congregation who have reacted negatively. Nothing overt, Hannah says, "but we've definitely gotten looks and it's obvious some of them talk behinds our backs."

But she refuses to let a few bad apples define her church.

"I honestly believe that modern churches, like ours, are becoming more and more accepting of the LGBTQ community. It's been a slow process, but I can definitely see the morale shifting towards a more progressive mindset..."

The Metropolitan Community Church (MCC) was founded in 1968 as a ministry for LGBTQ people who felt rejected by their home churches. Today, though, welcoming congregations are everywhere—a fact Hannah credits to increased visibility.

"In 2019, everyone knows someone who is LGBTQ—it makes them think about it and realize they've been fooled into following an extremely outdated viewpoint."

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