'Uninvited': Man Banned Mom and Sister for Taking Fianceé's Wedding Dress

Commenters were appalled after one man explained how his mother and sister stole his fianceé's wedding dress in a popular internet forum on Wednesday.

In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, the anonymous 32-year-old detailed the dress theft, and asked the subreddit's 3.6 million members if he was justified in uninviting both his mother and sister from his upcoming wedding. Titled, "AITA for officially uninviting my mom and sister from my wedding after they hid my fianceè's wedding dress to force her to wear the dress they chose for her?" the viral post has received 13.6K votes and 1.6K comments in just six hours.

Writing that he and his 27-year-old fianceé are getting married next month, the Redditor said that recently, his mother and sister asked if they could tag along while his fianceé shops for a wedding dress. His fianceé agreed begrudgingly and the trio set out to find the perfect ensemble.

"They had offered to show her different brands and styles but she told them she already had one in mind," the Redditor wrote. "They went dress shopping and [my] mom and sister tried once again pushing my fianceé to pick a dress they liked."

"She refused and found what she was looking for," he added.

Just after purchasing her "dream wedding dress," however, the Redditor's fianceé noticed it was missing. The couple considered calling the police to report the dress stolen, but were interrupted by the original poster's mother and sister, who arrived at their apartment bearing a shocking gift.

"My mom and sister came over to calm my fianceé down and offered her a 'surprise' which was a wedding dress they bought for her. The same wedding dress they wanted her to buy," he wrote. "My fianceé got upset by that and what's worse was that my neighbor later called to tell me he saw my mom and sister show up to the apartment around 11 a.m. and leaving with a big bag."

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Redditors were furious after one man explained why his mother and sister stole and hid his fianceé's "dream" wedding dress. Motortion/iStock / Getty Images Plus

"I started putting the pieces together...and came to a conclusion that they took my fianceè's wedding dress and hid it in an attempt to force her to wear what they chose for her," he added. "I yelled at them and told them they were officially uninvited from the wedding."

While wedding dress costs typically range from $500 to $4,000, Brides.com reported that in 2021, the national average cost (including alterations) was $1,631—which makes hiding one dress and purchasing another a costly decision.

In an article examining rocky relationships between brides and their mother-in-laws, Inside Weddings revealed that mothers of grooms "tend to feel a little left out," resulting in miscalculated attempts to seize some control of the wedding planning process.

For many brides, wedding dress shopping remains a mother-daughter event. However, in the event that a future mother-in-law is involved in the dress shopping process, it is recommended that boundaries are established early and adhered to.

"If she's the type to offer opinions about everything, give her things that are off-limits in terms of offering her opinions. Be clear in your communication so you can always refer back to these 'rules' if she tries to bend them," WeddingWire writer Nora Shepard wrote.

Although multiple wedding-related publications and forums suggest setting boundaries, or assigning future in-laws menial planning tasks, overbearing family members often find ways to interfere, despite strict requests from engaged couples.

In his original Reddit post, the anonymous Redditor said that tensions have cooled since he uninvited his mother and sister, but added that he refused to change his mind on the matter.

"Things have calmed down and the family are asking me to let this go and re-invite mom and sister to my wedding because they had no malicious intent and were just trying to help," he wrote. "But I stood firm on my decision even after they offered to apologize."

Responding to the Redditor's decision to uninvite his mother and sister from his wedding, thousands of commenters assured the 32-year-old that he was justified in doing so, and dragged the two women for stealing his fianceè's dream dress.

In the post's top comment, which has received more than 21,000 votes, Redditor u/SnazzySusieQ wrote that the pair deserved to be banned from the wedding, and encouraged the original poster to keep them away from the couple's big day.

"Don't let them come," they commented. "They'll do something to ruin the dress and surprise! They have the other dress with them."

"What they did was unforgivable. I would cut them off completely," they added.

Redditor u/PillowOfCarnage, whose comment has received nearly 6,000 votes, questioned the original poster's mother and sister and predicted that they would continue to interfere with the wedding if re-invited.

"Who the hell does that do a bride-to-be?," they wrote. "If they're willing to pull this sh*t, I wouldn't trust them to behave themselves at the wedding."