Wife Ripped For Ditching Husband's Daughter Over 'Improper' Birthday Attire

Members of a popular internet forum were furious after one father revealed the petty reason his wife refused to bring his teenage daughter to her birthday dinner.

In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/Throwaway09665659 (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or OP) said he planned to celebrate his wife's birthday at a restaurant but explained why he canceled the celebration before it even started.

Titled, "[Am I the a**hole] for calling off my wife's birthday party after she lied about bringing my daughter with her to the restaurant?" the post has received nearly 10,000 votes and 1,300 comments in the last six hours.

Writing that his 16-year-old daughter is "incredibly sensitive...and loves to help people," the original poster described the teen's recent charity work and conscientious style choices—which have an infuriating effect on his wife.

"She wears thrift shop clothes which is something my wife isn't so happy with," OP wrote. "She thinks that [my daughter] was/is painting a bad picture of us as neglectful parents and giving a false impression to people that we're poor."

Despite his wife's assurance that her disdain for his daughter is "all in [his] head," the original poster said he gathered friends and family at a restaurant to celebrate his partner's birthday but was sorely disappointed when she arrived without his daughter.

"I asked my wife to get [my daughter] and meet me there, although at first she hinted that if [she] refused to dress 'properly' then she wouldn't bring her," OP explained. "I told her that if she didn't bring her then we'd have an issue."

"I saw my wife walk into the restaurant by herself...and she told me [my daughter] 'didn't feel like coming,' OP continued. "I just had this gut feeling that my wife was lying...and sure enough, my wife gave her an ultimatum saying either she had to wear 'something that matches our class' or she wouldn't be allowed to come."

"I was furious. I walked inside the restaurant and...told her friends and family exactly why [my daughter] wasn't there...and I ended up calling off the entire event," OP added. "[My wife] kept yelling at me for ruining her birthday and making a scene and humiliating [her] in front of her friends and family.

"She said [my daughter] was acting stubborn and that's on her," OP wrote.

For many teenagers, dressing in a style incomprehensible to parents is a rite of passage into the world of independence and autonomous choices.

However, there is a difference between not understanding the latest teenage style trend and hating it so much that lying to your husband about his daughter seems like a better option than letting a young person express themselves.

From ripped jeans and dirty shoes to body piercings and tattoos, parents have long scratched their heads over their children's fashion choices, but leaving a 16-year-old behind because they aren't dressed up to class standards is indicative of a deeper divide.

Recently, Newsweek has reported on numerous Reddit threads detailing the heated interactions and relationships between teenagers and their mothers (or stepmothers) and the ways they've been resolved—or simply left to fester.

In one thread, one stepmom explained why she forces her teenage stepdaughter to wake up early to make breakfast for her children while she sleeps, drawing the ire of thousands of Redditors.

In another, one teenager revealed how she was sneakily left out of family photos by her mother and stepfather. Again, Redditors banded together to rip the parents for their insensible act of exclusion.

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Members of Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum defended one father who cancelled his wife's birthday dinner. Photodjo/iStock / Getty Images Plus

Throughout the comment section of the viral Reddit post published by u/Throwaway09665659, Redditors offered a similar response and slammed the original poster's wife for treating his daughter with such disdain.

"I don't care how much money you have, your wife is low-class," Redditor u/aabbccbb wrote in the post's top comment, which has received more than 10,000 votes. "You made yourself clear: [your daughter] comes, or no birthday dinner."

"She's hurting your daughter for not being as materialistic as she is," they added. "[Not the a**hole]."

Redditor u/gentle-seal, whose comment has received more than 8,000 votes, echoed that sentiment and congratulated the original poster for standing up for his daughter.

"Your wife is definitely wrong for ALL of that, and I'm glad that [your daughter] has a great parent she can rely on," they wrote.

"​​Your wife is clearly showing true (and snobby) colors," Redditor u/zZombi__ added, receiving more than 2,500 votes.

In a separate comment, which has received nearly 2,000 votes, Redditor u/looneylefty92 focused solely on the original poster's wife and questioned her seeming obsession with class and wealth.

"Your wife is not only elitist, but she is doing her damnedest to force your daughter to be, too," they wrote. "Your wife doesn't like your value set or the value set of your daughter.

"She is concerned with appearances in front of strangers, status, and 'class,'" they added. "It makes me wonder how your wife acts to poor people in public, quite honestly."

Newsweek reached out to u/Throwaway09665659 for comment.