Wife Urged to Dump Lifelong Friend Over 'Nasty' Behavior on Her Wedding Day

The internet has advised a wife to take her new husband's side in a long-standing feud between her friend and partner.

The Mumsnet user explained: "My husband and one of my friends have never gotten on for reasons I won't go into here as it's too long and complicated to explain. In my opinion, they were both in the wrong."

She continued to explain that she and her partner had their wedding the month before: "In the planning stages, we had gone back and forth on whether to invite this particular friend. I was one of her bridesmaids so it felt very nasty to not invite her or just invite her to the evening, but I wanted my husband to feel comfortable on the day."

In fact, research shows that keeping the peace between your partner and your friends can be an essential step to a successful relationship.

A 2018 study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships worked with a sample of over 350 couples to examine the impacts of social networks on marriages.

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A stock image of two friends sitting on the couch talking while a man sits looking fed up and irritated. The internet has urged a wife to side with her husband in an ongoing feud between him and her friend. Image Source/Getty Images

Following the couples for more than two decades, researchers discovered that when one partner did not get on with the other's friends, the couple was twice as likely to divorce. While husbands' negative perceptions of their wives' friends were more productive of divorce than when wives disliked their husbands' friends, there was more evidence that some relationship breakdowns were as a result of wives' friends interfering in a marriage.

After lots of discussion, the couple agreed to invite the friend, but when the day came, the friend did not behave as they had hoped.

"They appeared in a bad mood, implied I wasn't spending enough time with them and other members of her particular friend group—it was my wedding day, I was a little busy—and worst of all, they didn't acknowledge my husband even when he was stood right next to me," explained the poster.

Since the wedding, the husband has been upset about the situation: "My husband gets upset and uncomfortable whenever I go and see this friend as he feels I shouldn't be interacting with someone who was so nasty to him and he views this as a betrayal. However, I have been friends with them for many many years and it would feel wrong to end the friendship."

She continued to explain that the friend is linked to many of her other friends and family, making it difficult for them to be part of certain events or hobbies if they were no longer friends: "They also live very locally so it would be hard to avoid them," she said.

But the internet rushed to slam the friend for her behavior, siding with the husband. One user said: "She's not being a friend to you if she behaves the way she did at your wedding."

Another user wrote: "Your husband sounds like a gentleman. Your friend sounds like an absolute cow."

"Your loyalty really should be with your husband on this, as she was clearly in the wrong at the wedding," said another reply.

"I'm with your husband on this," said another person: "Anyone who goes out to be difficult and sullen on your wedding day isn't a friend."

Newsweek was not able to verify the details of the case.

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