Woman Dragged for Reaction to Boyfriend Calling Niece 'Princess'

Thousands of internet commenters were left stunned after one woman explained why she asked her boyfriend to change the caption of a recent Instagram post.

In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/throwaway445997 (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or OP) said the couple has been together for three years and detailed her disappointment when he used one of her pet names to describe someone else.

Titled, "[Am I the a**hole] for asking my [boyfriend] to edit the caption on his Instagram post?" the post has received nearly 11,000 votes and 4,000 comments in the last eight hours.

Beginning with explanation that the couple attended a birthday party for her boyfriend's niece last week, the original poster said that days later, a photo from the day of the celebration caught her attention.

"He posted a picture of [him and his niece] with the caption 'My most precious princess,'" OP wrote. "For info, when we got together I asked my [boyfriend] if he could call me princess and for 3 years he always exclusively did that."

"I told him that I had no problem with the superlative because his [niece] is literally the most cutest and precious," OP continued. "But I asked if he could change the word 'princess' to 'girl' or any other word."

"He said in case I forgot his niece was literally wearing a princess [costume] and that's why he chose that word," OP added.

In an era when Instagram averages around 1 billion monthly users, deciding on the perfect caption can make the difference between being down in the dumps and skyrocketing levels of serotonin.

But as Instagram and other social media sites strengthen their claim as the center of attention for billions of users, the perfect—or imperfect—caption can cause real problems for real couples in real life.

"We think with social media that there are all these new rules, but if you take out the word 'social media' and describe behaviors, it's much easier to see what's going on," Dr. Pamela Rutledge, Director at the Media Psychology Research Center said in an interview with Cosmopolitan.

"When it comes to relationships, it's easy for not-great habits to become even more glaringly obvious with Instagram," former Cosmopolitan writer Julia Pugachevsky added.

However, the difference between an Instagram post, like or follow that drives a wedge between romantic partners and an Instagram caption about a romantic partner's niece is stark.

Couple arguing about Instagram caption
Members of Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum called out one woman for her reaction to her boyfriend's recent Instagram photo of his niece. Viktoria Korobova/iStock / Getty Images Plus

Throughout the comment section of the viral Reddit post, Redditors called out the original poster for her reaction to her boyfriend's Instagram caption and questioned why a seemingly-harmless social media post posed such a problem.

"[You're the a**hole]," Redditor u/i-Ake wrote in the post's top comment, which has received nearly 40,000 votes. "Your request is absurd. I don't even know what to say."

"You're jealous of a child he loves being called a name that is usually reserved for children," they added. "She was literally dressed as a princess. It bothered you so much you needed him to edit his social media over it."

Redditor u/rapt2right, whose comment has received nearly 10,000 upvotes, echoed that sentiment.

"[You're the a**hole]. And pathetic. How insecure do you have to be to be jealous of a child?" they questioned. "Even asking to be called 'Princess' is borderline but demanding that he not use that endearment in reference to his [niece], especially when the girl is literally dressed up as a princess, is absurd."

"Is this real?" Redditor u/thewhiterosequeen chimed in, receiving 5,000 upvotes. "Are people really this insecure and petty?"

In a separate comment, which has received nearly 5,000 upvotes, Redditor u/Gamora_9 asked a pressing question to the original poster.

"Why are [you] trying to compete with his [NIECE]?" they exclaimed. "You don't own the word ['princess']."