Woman Praised for Kicking Out 'Spoiled' Kid and Her Mom From Birthday Party

A woman has been praised online after she kicked out a "spoiled" child and her mother from her daughter's birthday party.

In a Reddit post shared on the popular Am I The A**hole message board, which can be seen here, user u/Classic-Farm-1389 explained how her 10-year-old daughter Alicia held a party for her friends but that a friend of hers from school threw a tantrum during the event.

The woman, 35, said the friend Quinn was spoiled by her mother Liz and would throw tantrums "whenever the attention isn't on her."

She added: "So, Alicia gets her cake and Liz actually asked me if Quinn could blow out the candles with my daughter because her daughter was about to pitch a fit. Alicia and I both said no and Quinn started to cry."

File photo of screaming girl.
File photo of screaming girl. A mom has been backed for kicking out a child having a tantrum at her daughter;s birthday party. quintanilla/Getty Images

The mother added that while Alicia was opening her presents, Quinn wanted to have some as she "was getting everything."

Classic-Farm-1389 said: "It was so embarrassing because even people outside of our party room heard."

She later continued: "After everyone left the room I told Liz that she needed to take her daughter home because she was making Alicia's party about her meltdowns. I said that Quinn obviously didn't want to be there because the day wasn't about her, so it would make sense to just leave.

"Liz tried to say she would calm Quinn down but I wouldn't even let her speak. I demanded that she leave and went out to watch my daughter play.

"My husband (he was on his way, he was coming later on) told me that I should have just let Quinn stay instead of causing a scene and adding the drama because Alicia was still having a good time."

Since being shared online on Monday, June 27, the post attracted 6,080 upvotes and more than 550 comments.

One Reddit user said: "As the mother of a 3-year-old, I totally get wanting to just give in to your kid to spare the tantrum because they're just exhausting. But it's my job to teach her how to deal with her feelings.

"I chose to have this kid, I have to take responsibility for her. I can't stand parents that don't tell their kids 'no.' It's just lazy parenting to be honest."

Another commenter, whose comment was upvoted more than 7,300 times added: "She actually asked you if Quinn could blow out the candles? What in the hell type of entitlement is that? I can see a 5-year-old getting jealous like that, but at 10 it's just terrible parenting.

"You did fine asking her to leave. I'm actually glad you're putting your foot down when Quinn's own mom couldn't even do it. That child is going to be everyone else's problem because her mom can't control her."

A third person commented: "Candles were one thing. I can get over the fact that she demanded to be given one of Alicia's birthday presents like a spoiled toddler. And the kid is 10."

According to the Mayo Clinic, there are numerous things people can do to respond to a tantrum and what can be done to prevent them.

While the Mayo Clinic said there is no foolproof way to prevent tantrums, it said the following steps could be taken:

  • Be consistent by establishing a daily routine so that your child knows what to expect and stick to the routine.
  • Plan ahead and run errands when your child isn't likely to be tired or hungry and pack a small toy or snack if you're expecting to wait in line.
  • Praise good behavior by offering extra attention when they do as is expected of them
  • Let your child make appropriate choices by avoiding saying no to everything, let them choose between options and make them feel as if they have a sense of control.

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