Woman Praised for Exposing 'Reality Shattering' Truth About Her Dad

Online commenters have applauded a woman for telling her younger sister "the truth" about their father.

Posting in Reddit's "Am I The A**hole" (AITA) forum under the username u/pottedplanets-, the woman asked: "AITA for telling my sister the truth about why I moved out the day I turned 18?" The post has garnered over 11,000 upvotes and hundreds of supportive comments. You can read the full post here.

Living With Parents

American teens are legally allowed to move out of their parent's homes once they turn 18, the legal age of maturity. However, due to a variety of factors, more and more young adults are choosing to live with parents or other older family members until their mid-20s and beyond.

According to Statista, 55 percent of women and roughly 60 percent of men aged 18 to 24 lived with their parents in 2021. Additionally, 25 percent of adults aged 25 to 34 reported living in a multi-generational household last year, said the Pew Research Center.

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The Center found "financial issues" to be the driving factor behind multi-generational homes, followed by "caregiving" needs. Interestingly, 28 percent of those living in one of these households said it was the living arrangement they'd "always had," while some said either a change in relationship status or a desire for companionship led them to move back in with family.


Despite how popular it's become for young adults to live with their parents over the last few years, u/pottedplanets- was determined to move out of her father's house on her 18th birthday, a goal she said she accomplished.

"When I was 10 years old, my parents divorced. My dad was so mean in the way he spoke to my mom, he always made her do all the housework and 'difficult parenting' but would swoop in to be the fun parent and apologize to my siblings and [me] for her behavior," u/pottedplanets- wrote.

After filing for divorce, u/pottedplanets- said her father, who was friends with her mother's boss, presumably got her mother fired from her job. What's more, his name was the only one on their house, so her mother eventually became homeless.

Still, u/pottedplanets- believed all the terrible things her father had said about her mother. That is until her mother fled the state to live with her sister, making her father the sole provider for her and her siblings.

"As soon as my mom was gone, my dad began treating me the way he had treated her. It was a total switch from the man I'd grown up with...It took that total 180-degree [turn] for me to realize what had happened between him and my mom," u/pottedplanets- said.

At the age of 16, she "went through some documents from the divorce" and confirmed that her father was, in fact, "the problem." So, she started stashing her money away and on her 18th birthday, she packed her things and moved out.

"I've done pretty well for myself after leaving. I have a job, an apartment, [and] a baby. I'm happy with my life," she said, adding that she's also reconnected with her mother.

Over the weekend, however, her 18-year-old sister reached out to her to ask why she moved out all those years ago, and at first, u/pottedplanets- lied. But when her sister pressed, she told her "the truth" about their father.

"She didn't respond well to it. She told me our dad would have never done those things, that our mom was the problem," u/pottedplanets- said. "I told our mom what happened, and she said that I shouldn't have told my sister at all. She thinks that it wasn't fair of me to shatter her reality like that, because she's just a kid and our dad is still her hero."

Redditors React

Redditors couldn't disagree more with u/pottedplanets-'s mother, arguing that her sister, who is no longer a child, asked to hear the truth.

"NTA [not the a**hole]. She insisted that you tell her the real reason why you left. She's technically an adult. She should have expected the answer to be unpleasant because why would you have left the minute you could otherwise?" u/FunkyOrangePenguin asked.

"NTA. She wanted to know why and you told her. She had to suspect something was wrong for you to leave the way you did," u/onesikone agreed.

Redditor u/verbalbush added: "[As] you said, she kept pushing. Also, she's not a child, she's 18 and has a right to know. And if I were in her shoes, I'd want to know too instead of being kept in the dark while still living with a parent like that."

Newsweek reached out to u/pottedplanets- for comment.

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