...
By Leonie Helm
Life Reporter
0
Share
Newsweek is a Trust Project member
See more of our trusted coverage when you search.Prefer Newsweek on Googleto see more of our trusted coverage when you search.
Mumsnet users have almost unanimously voted a woman as "reasonable," with 96 percent supporting her for being "annoyed" about her sister's destination wedding and the inevitable price tag.
Original poster destinationisland explained: "My sister is planning a wedding next year in the Pacific Islands. This is a 30- to 40-hour flight away and will cost my family at least £5k ($6,000) in flights alone to get there. We can barely afford this but were happy to go anyway for the experience and the memories."
...
Read More
‘I Only Buy Second-Hand Gifts for Christmas’5 min read
Inside Life as a Professional Bridesmaid: ‘Bride Locked Me in a Room’5 min read
My Fiancé Cheated, But We Are Getting Married Next Month—What Should I Do?5 min read
According to GroupTravel.org, destination weddings make up one out of every four weddings in the U.S. The website reports that the most popular wedding destinations outside of the country are Mexico, Hawaii, or the Caribbean. Wedding Forward planners have calculated that, on average, an international destination wedding will cost each guest $2,623.
The Mumsnet poster writes she has just found out that her family will need to find their own accommodation, "as there is not longer room for us in the main villa." They will be half-a-mile away from the rest of the family, and no cars are allowed on the island.
The poster adds: "It's probably important to mention we have two children under 6."
She also writes that, while planning her own wedding to her Australian husband, they gave up on their dream of getting married in Thailand, so his family could attend, due to complaints by her family. She adds that her sister and her husband have no connection to the Pacific Islands.
Roberta Burcheri, lead planner and designer at Roberta Burcheri Events in London, told Newsweek about how to treat your wedding guests.
"Having a destination wedding is a big ask from your family and friends because unless you, as the couple getting married, are paying for everyone's flights and accommodation to the destination, this is a cost that lands into the laps of your guests," said Burcheri.
"Depending where guests need to fly to and how long they will be there will determine whether their costs just to get there run from the hundreds of pounds or, if a long-haul exotic destination, into the thousands of pounds.
"Try to be mindful of any of your wedding guests who may simply not be able to afford this. Try not to take any feedback you get from guests personally," Burcheri added.
She offered these top tips for handling your destination wedding:
- Consider a smaller guestlist, so you can afford the ones who really matter most.
- Ask your guests for their presence, instead of presents.
- Send your Save the Dates ASAP, six to 12 months before the wedding, so you give your guests enough notice to start saving, and ask them to RSVP so you can get an accurate head-count and plan accordingly.
- Ask the hotel where you will be staying for a reduced rate if you block-book and look for group airline fares with tour operators.
- If you can, offer to pay for accommodation and for airport transfers (and save money yourselves by arranging their arrivals and departures at the same time).
- As the hosts, you are usually responsible for all of the standard events like rehearsal dinner, welcome party, and post-wedding brunch. Or you may offer to pay for any planned group tours or activities.
Mumsnet users supported the OP, with MrsTerryPratchett writing: "Don't go. That's a massive amount of money to spend feeling p***** off, which I would."
User kweeble posted: "I wouldn't go and it's best to say now; your family's budget is a fair reason and also the need to visit your husband's family at some point."
And user1471457751 commented: "Have your parents got history for prioritising your sister? It's odd that they wouldn't go to Thailand for you despite the family reason you had but will go to a Pacific island for your sister just because your sis liked a holiday there."
Newsweek could not verify the details of the case.
Has a wedding come between your relationship with a loved one? Let us know via life@newsweek.com. We can ask experts for advice, and your story could be featured on Newsweek.
View 0 Comments
Submit Correction
View Editorial & AI Guidelines