Woman Cheered for Rejecting Sister's 'Bridezilla' Demands to Be in Wedding

A woman has divided opinions online after confessing that she rejected being her sister's bridesmaid as she doesn't have the "energy, time and money."

The 28-year-old took to Subreddit "Am I the A**hole" to gain views on her dilemma that had seemingly upset her whole family. Her younger sister is set to marry but has been left upset after she rejected the offer.

Their family is a large one, she explained, consisting of 24 female cousins and 17 male cousins. Since the beginning, she has always declined being a bridesmaid for anyone as a standalone rule.

"When I attend a wedding I want to have fun, eat food and dance. In exchange I will get you a gift. I do not want to spend my energy, time and money on your big day. When I get married, I will not have a bridal party nor will I expect a bachelorette party," she wrote in the popular post.

"Well all of the cousins understood, there were no hard feelings. And to be honest, with that many cousins it wasn't even an issue."

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Stock image of bride party balloons. A woman has split opinions online after saying that she rejected being her sister's bridesmaid. Getty Images

It was an issue however when she said the same to her sister. The woman remained adamant that she let her sister down "very gently" and apologized, but explained that with working full-time, preparing her thesis and teaching summer classes, she simply did not have the time to "make a good bridesmaid."

"Also, my sister is a total bridezilla. The dresses she is looking at for her party are $450, she expects a weekend bachelorette in Vegas with all the bells and whistles, and wants everyone to attend dance classes to learn this elaborate dance to surprise her with. I do not have the energy for all that ish."

The sister however was not so on board, and ended up uninviting her from the wedding.The family, including the mom and aunts, are on the side of her sister dubbing the woman an "a**hole."

Outlandish requests for bridesmaids are not a rarity and a Wedding Wire study found that the bridesmaid will spend around $1,200 on average for a wedding she is part of.

For the most part, internet users were left supporting the woman's decision to leave the bridal party, with one comment gaining over 9,000 likes, noting: "You don't deserve to be there? Jesus, how full of herself can she be? After a comment like that I wouldn't go to that wedding if she paid me."

"Wedding parties have gotten ridiculous these days," agreed another user. "We've gone from a bridal shower to a shower and a bachelorette party, to a bachelorette weekend at an expensive destination. Not to mention the wedding day with the dress, shoes, hair and makeup. If you know that it's more effort than you're willing to put forth, then you'd be an a**hole if you agreed to be in the wedding party."

One user similarly chimed in, writing: "Your sister sounds entitled, you explained why you could not be a bridesmaid because of a busy schedule, the world does not revolve around her wedding."

However, not quite everyone was on the same page, with some users defending the sister and her upset about the situation.

"Little bit of an a**hole. Your sister wants you to be a part of something special to her. You are just like 'nah,' you are not worth my time, energy or money," wrote one user.

"I think you both are a little. The idea that weddings are for your fun (I want to eat, dance, etc.) and not about celebrating the married couple is self centered. If someone asked you to speak at a funeral would you be like nah, I want to be able to arrive late or leave early. Course not because it's not about you," argued another.

"Well weddings and funerals are two sides of the same coin in my opinion in that it's not about you. That said, your sister is making ridiculous demands of her bridesmaids. Based on that you are NTA [not the a**hole] for turning this one down."

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