Don't get in between a woman and her friends. A Redditor posted to the "Am I the A**hole (AITA)" forum asking whether she should end "girls night" in a tale that riveted the comments section.
"Hi so I've been seeing this guy "will" 27M for months now," user S-Ad3531 wrote. " We don't live together but we do meet at my place every weekend. He called and asked what we will be doing on friday and I said I wanted to host a GNI since it was my turn."
Her boyfriend inquired as to what she was referring to, then said the idea of a girls night is "sooo 1950s" and to "stop promoting and advocating for those events as they are sooo toxic and flat out reek of misogyny."
The woman said she was "shocked" but maintained her plans. His response was to join and make it a couple's night, but the woman refused.
"He called me a sexist and misogynistic for having a girls night in and making it so obvious instead of being ashamed of myself," she said. "He said that my mentality will cause me issues in the future especially if I behave like that in a professional work setting."
The man reportedly hung up on her after they argued and, despite her attempts to call and apologize, he asked for time to process "what he just found out about my personality." The original poster also noted, "[Throwaway because he has my et main accounts password]," which became cause for concern among commenters.
According to Time, Dr. Lillian Glass defined a toxic relationship as "any relationship between people who don't support each other, where there's conflict and one seeks to undermine the other, where there's competition, where there's disrespect and a lack of cohesiveness."
In the now-viral post that has more than 16,000 upvotes and almost 5,000 comments, many supported the woman's choice to keep girls night alive and well. More so, they deemed the man's reaction "toxic" and a "red flag."
"NTA how is girls night sexist??" Soft-Worldliness-466 wrote. "No offense but you've said that you've only been dating a couple of months and he throws a tantrum over you not picking him over spending time with your friends. That's a red flag." The comment has nearly 30,000 upvotes.
"Also the fact they've only been together a few months and he has all her account passwords. Seems very controlling and a red flag too," skarizardpancake wrote.
"Also only been dating a couple months and he has her passwords ?? BABY GIRL RUN. He's showing his true colors very early, be lucky you're not finding this out AFTER you've moved in together. He sounds lowkey controlling," Moooookie_18 said.
"Talk about what he found out about YOUR personality, think about what you found out about HIS. He's trying to push you away from your friends just because you want to spend one night with them. HUGE red flag," cashycallow added.
UofMtigers2014 said, "Coming from a man, run away from this boy. Completely NTA. Flipping out about a girl's night or needing me time or any time separate from him is a huge red flag and shows how clingy and controlling he will be down the line."
