Woman Says Husband Criticizes Her For Eating Less After Weight-Loss Surgery in Viral Post

A woman caught Reddit's attention when she claimed in a now-viral post that her husband criticizes her eating habits.

Posting in Reddit's "Am I The A**hole" forum on Sunday under the username u/Separate-Shock-1441, the woman explained that she underwent weight-loss surgery in 2019. "The surgery," she wrote, "shrank [her] stomach so [she] can't eat a ton."

The post has received more than 9,500 votes and over 1,100 comments.

The Redditor didn't specify the type of weight-loss surgery she received; however, the Mayo Clinic stated on its website that weight loss surgeries are used to "physically limit the amount of food the stomach can hold," as well as "shorten or bypass part of the small intestine, which reduces the amount of calories and nutrients the body absorbs."

Two common forms of weight-loss surgery are Roux-en-Y gastric bypass and sleeve gastrectomy.

Because she fills up easily, the Redditor shared that she often has to take home leftovers when she goes out to eat. According to her post, this annoys her husband.

"My husband hates it when I order food and take it home," she said. "He thinks it's a waste of food and money."

In fact, the couple recently argued over the topic.

"We recently went out to dinner with friends and I ordered a chicken dish. I felt full and asked if I could get a box. The waitress brings me over a box and I see my husband roll his eyes. He looks at the rest of the food and says there are a ton of people that would appreciate receiving a meal. I started to feel embarrassed and apologized to my friends," she said.

"On our way home, husband and I got into a huge argument about the evening. He tells me that going out to eat isn't enjoyable since I got the surgery," the Redditor shared.

She wanted to know: "[Am I the a**hole] for taking leftovers home?"

Newsweek has reached out to u/Separate-Shock-1441 for more information.

Many commenters were quick to defend the woman.

"NTA [not the a**hole]. Does your husband want to mail your leftovers to starving children?" asked u/NUT-me-SHELL.

Commenter u/Alarmed-Hamster-4047 added: "NTA—your husband is WEIRD. I get to go boxes all the time, and so does my husband! It's just a thing people do if you can't eat your whole meal, why is he embarrassed???"

Some, however, wanted her to clarify whether or not she was actually eating the leftovers.

"Am I missing something here? You're not wasting food; you're taking the leftovers home and eating it later, right? So how is it a waste of food and money?" asked u/Amaethon_Oak.

The comment received more than 17,000 votes.

Others suggested that her husband could just be "resentful" about her weight loss.

"Some people have this attitude of 'you can't [have] nice things if I can't,' particularly when it comes to weight loss. Or sometimes a person becomes insecure by their partner's weight loss and they think they will leave them. In either case, these people deal with their insecurity by trying to sabotage the person losing weight," said u/IAMA_Shark__AMA.

Redditor u/bunnylimon agreed, adding: "This. I bet he resents her weight loss and he's making other nasty remarks to bring her confidence down."

In response to another commenter who also offered that her husband might be resentful, u/Separate-Shock-1441 clarified that her husband "was raised to always finish his meal."

"It rubbed off on him and now he hates that I don't eat everything on my plate," she explained.

The University of California San Francisco (UCSF) Benioff Children's Hospitals stated clearly on its website that parents should not force their children to eat.

"Forcing children to eat reinforces poor eating habits such as eating when they aren't hungry or cleaning the plate when they're already full," said the healthcare provider.

"Besides causing an unpleasant mealtime environment, these behaviors can create a picky eater or result in your child becoming overweight."

A woman caught Reddit’s attention when she claimed in a now-viral post that her husband criticizes her for eating less than she did when they were first married. Benjamin Clapp/istock

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