Woman Says Husband 'Hates' When She Reads, 'Threw Away' Her Book Collection in Viral Post

A woman claimed in a now-viral post that her husband "threw away" her book collection because he "hates" when she reads.

Posting to Reddit's "Am I The A**hole" forum on Friday under the username u/Wrong-Turn2020, the woman said that she demanded her husband replace the books.

Already, the post has received more than 13,000 upvotes and over 3,200 comments.

"We just returned from [our] honeymoon two months ago and he's been complaining about books taking our special time away, specifically at night, but I like to think that I'm balancing with my reading time," the woman wrote.

She later added that her reading habit made her husband feel "neglected" and "ignored."

In an effort to turn her off from reading, the woman claimed that her husband would call her "grandma," and would say that she reminded him of an "old lady."

However, his comments didn't work. So, he took things a step further.

"A week ago, I found out that [he'd] given my book collection away and I was devastated," she said. "After, he defended himself saying he did this for my own good and for the sake of our marriage since I seemed to forget my priorities."

He also suggested she "invest" her time in an outdoor hobby that they could do together.

When it comes to marriage, many experts recommend that couples spend time apart from one another to be with friends and pursue different interests.

"Other than driving each other crazy, spending time away from each other will give the relationship the right amount of space it needs to thrive. It's extremely problematic for couples when they try to get all their needs met by their partner," psychotherapist Crystal Bradshaw, LPC, told Martha Stewart Weddings.

"It's just not realistic. Your partner cannot be everything for you, and you cannot be everything for your partner," she said.

Speaking to HuffPost, therapist Elisabeth LaMotte said that, so long as couples make time for one another, having different hobbies can be healthy.

"As long as a couple prioritizes spending time together on a regular basis, it is reasonable to pursue completely different interests," she said.

"In fact, the ability to passionately pursue independent interests reflects a strong sense of an individual self on the part of both partners in the relationship. And a strong sense of self is conducive to a healthy level of intimacy," she explained.

In response to her husband's suggestion, u/Wrong-Turn2020 compiled a list of all the books her husband discarded and demanded that he replace them within the week.

Her husband called her "childish," which prompted her to ask Redditors: "[Am I the a**hole] for expecting him to replace the books?"

Redditors were quick to defend the woman's demand, adding that she should probably re-think her marriage.

"NTA [not the a**hole]. Time to get an annulment or divorce. He seems very controlling and it will only get worse," said u/Complex-Guitar7097.

More than 22,000 Redditors upvoted u/Comples-Guitar7097's comment in agreement.

"NTA. Throw the husband away and replace him with more books," wrote u/acetrainerjayce.

"NTA—you have been married for 8 weeks and he has gotten rid of something this important to you?? RUN," commented u/heishancell.

Redditor u/Likeomgitscrystal added: "NTA, but replacing the books won't fix the real problem here. He's a jerk."

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A woman claimed in a now-viral post that her husband “threw away” her book collection because he “hates” when she reads. jovan_epn/istock