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By Alice Gibbs
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A mom has been backed for the reason she distanced herself from her sister and declined her wedding invite.
Known on Reddit as u/fokaifemme, the woman took to the Am I the A******? (AITA) subreddit to explain why she refused to attend her sister's wedding and won't let her children interact with her niece, Nicky.
The conflict began five years ago when the poster's son, Marc, was harassed by Nicky and her friends. "My niece Nicky and her friends ridiculed and harassed my son Marc. They speculated about his sexuality, called him slurs, and even used the N-word with a hard R—all for their entertainment," u/fokaifemme recounted in the post that has thousands of upvotes. Marc was visibly shaken when he came home after the incident, crying and shaking, struggling to explain what had happened.
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The mother immediately approached her sister, explaining the severity of the situation and Marc's distress. However, her sister dismissed the incident entirely, saying, "My daughter and her friends would 'never act that way.'"
It wasn't just verbal either, the mom added that the niece had previously kicked her son and refused to apologize. Newsweek reached out to u/fokaifemme via Reddit for comment. We were unable to verify the details of this case.
The situation escalated when the poster's sister further minimized the racism involved, stating that one of Nicky's friends, who used the derogatory word, "couldn't possibly be racist because she's Mexican." This dismissive response was the final straw for the mom. "I told her that if she wasn't willing to address the issue, it was in my family's best interest to distance ourselves," she wrote.
Since the conflict, there has been no apology, and virtually no contact between the sisters. The mom said that she had decided to protect her son by keeping them away from her sister's family.
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This decision led to tension with the poster's extended family, particularly her mother, who once secretly took her children to spend time with the sister's family without permission. "I was furious and drove an hour to pick them up immediately," u/fokaifemme said. "I made it clear that if anyone couldn't respect my boundaries, I would have no choice but to distance myself from them as well."
Now, her sister has got engaged, and recently invited her to the wedding—an invite she declined.
"I declined [the invitation]," the mom said. "There has been no effort from my sister to apologize or reconcile." Her mother, continuing to pressure for reconciliation, asked if she could take the kids to the wedding, but she again refused.
"I'm standing firm in my decision to protect my kids," the poster wrote. "I've been labeled as overly harsh and unforgiving, but I have no regrets."
But, as she faced more pressure from extended family members to "squash" the feud, she turned to the Reddit forum to ask if she was wrong for refusing to forgive and forget.
It wasn't long before comments poured in online, and people overwhelmingly backed the mom.
"Your sister is a terrible 'parent' and doesn't take accountability for what her child does or even believe it, she's blind. Your boundary is 100 percent correct," said Reddit user pralinen91.
JTBlakeinNYC wrote: "Your sister and her child sound like terrible people."
It wasn't just users online that agreed with the poster, either. "I think the sister has every healthy reason for distancing her self from her intrusive and boundaryless family," Becky Whetstone, founder and principal at Marriage Crisis Manager, told Newsweek.
"I agree with the poster that this is the best decision for her and her family, because she has solid evidence that her biological family is not safe and likely to cause harm."
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