Bride 'Mad' She Can't Borrow Dress From Guest She Disinvited, Sparks Outrage Online

A wedding is a wonderful day in any married person's life, but the event can also be laden with tricky family politics.

This can certainly be said for one woman on Reddit, identified as Notworthit35, who recently took to the site to air her grievances surrounding her brother's wedding.

The woman explained that she had lent her future sister-in-law her own wedding dress for the big day because she had liked it "a lot and she asked to wear it for her wedding. I said 'Of course' and was thrilled I meant that much to her."

However, when it came to receiving an invite to the marriage ceremony itself, the woman realized her wife had been missed off the guest list.

In the post, she wrote: "I called my sister-in-law to ask and she tells me her parents were giving her hell for inviting me and my wife because they don't like us four 'obvious' reasons and after a lot of fighting they agreed that I come alone since I'm the groom's sister but not bring my wife.

"She apologized profoundly saying she was hoping I'd understand because her parents are paying for the wedding. "

She also explained that the bride-to-be's family "always comment on me and my wife and act as if we were less than."

The woman then revealed she told her brother's fiancée that she refused to attend without her wife: "I said fine no hard feelings and asked my brother to send my dress back to my place."

However, the future bride did not take this news well and the Reddit user wrote: "My sister-in-law was stunned after she found out I took the dress back.

"She came over crying begging me to let her have it since she's not the one with the budget and her parents told her to pay for her own wedding dress but she has no money."

She then explained that even her own parents got involved to try to get her to lend out her wedding dress, however she maintained: "I'm not mad just that I don't want to give it to her after all that's happened.

"Sister-in-law is mad and is clearly hoping I'd change my mind still since she kept texting me about it trying to pressure me into lending her my dress."

Since the post was shared on September 25, it has surpassed 12,600 upvotes on Reddit and attracted 1,100 comments, with people sharing their outrage at the situation.

An account called _its_only_forever raged: "Wtf else thinks they get to sh*t on your sexuality and marriage, and then feel entitled to one of the most personal symbols of that in your own wedding dress that you married your wife in?

"Tbf [to be fair] though, I'd let her wear it and then after the wedding I'd social media the hell out of her photos and your photos side-by-side and just gush about how amazing it is that your SIL [sister-in-law] wore your wedding dress that you married your wife in and how the dress is such a symbol of pure love between anyone who truly loves another person.

"I'm sure your SIL's awful family will love your dress just as much as you do! But I'm petty like that."

Usernaym44 added: "Yeah, I wanna know where her freakin' brother is in all this? Her brother's fiancée is one thing, but her brother allowing her to be kicked out of his wedding?"

HunterDangerous1366 remarked: "If your wife isn't 'good' enough to be invited for obvious reasons, the dress you married her in isn't either."

Yourlittlebirdie asked: "Your brother was seriously going to exclude his own sister-in-law from his wedding?

"And they're still trying to pressure you into lending your own wedding dress for a wedding that your spouse is excluded from?? No ma'am. Wow."

Burritogoals commented: "Your sister in law is choosing a fancy party over you and good morals.

"If someone offered to pay for my wedding on the condition they could make bigoted exclusions to my guest list, I would decline their money and not invite them."

Same-sex marriages became legal in all fifty states in the U.S. when the Supreme Court ruled against state bans in the case Obergefell v. Hodges. It also required states to honor out-of-state same-sex marriage licenses.

Attitudes to same-sex marriages have changed drastically, in 1988 only 11 percent of Americans supported them.

However, a survey conducted in 2020 found 70 percent of Americans are now in favor of allowing gay and lesbian couples to marry legally.

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A stock image of woman wearing a wedding dress. A Reddit user has shared her story of how her brother's fiancée wants to wear her wedding dress despite disinviting her to big day. iStock