Internet Slams Bride Mocking Friend for Wearing Same Dress More Than Once

The internet has sided with a woman whose friends made fun of her for wearing the same outfit more than once.

In a post shared to the subreddit r/AmItheA**hole? on Monday (read it in full here), a Reddit user, who has since deleted her account, explained her feelings were hurt after a friend made a joke about them wearing the same dress repeatedly to different events.

Titled "AITA for wearing the same dress to all my friend's wedding?," the post has over 10,000 upvotes and more than 2,000 comments from fellow Redditors sharing their opinion of her supposed fashion faux pas.

The poster explained that since moving to Canada, she only has a small amount of warm-weather attire, such as dresses and skirts. Most of her friends are based in California, so she has chosen to wear the same weather-appropriate blue dress to all of her friends' nuptials.

She wrote: "I live in Canada now with my husband but went to grade school in the states. So all my clothes are for cold weather only and I only have a small amount of dresses, skirts, warm weather attire.

"Most of my friends are in the states (California) and when I'm there I rotate 3 dresses (a black one, blue one and one for the holidays) and a couple of shorts. So I've worn the same blue dress for all my friend's weddings and in the latest one I got an invite to my friend's wedding with the message, "don't you dare wear that same blue dress." I've been teased by my friends about wearing the same thing."

It seems the poster's friends found her decision to wear the same outfit to multiple events hilarious, and had been ribbing her about her fashion choices for a while. However, when her latest friend to get married banned her from wearing the blue dress to her ceremony, the Redditor was upset.

She continued: "I only have a small wardrobe and most of my clothes are for function and work (I'm a civil engineer) rather than parties since I only go out a few times a year and it's too cold for dresses normally.

"AItA for wearing the same dress to all my friend's wedding and do I have to buy a new dress for my friend's wedding when she specifically said I can't wear the same one? It's not in bad shape it's only been worn a dozen times."

It's not only the bride and groom that have to worry about their budget. According to The Wedding Report, the cost of attending weddings is expected to rise this year, with out-of-town guests expected to pay more for travel and accommodation. The average cost for a guest to attend a wedding in 2021 was $660-$1,270, depending on whether they chose to travel by car or air. In 2022, the prices for airfare are expected to increase by 7 percent a month until the summer, while hotel stays have gone up by 23.6 percent and are predicted to keep rising.

Since the poster already has to worry about travel costs from Canada to California, and has stated that she would rather not buy new clothes that she won't use much, Reddit was quick to slam her friend's petty message.

In a comment that has been upvoted 17,000 times, Incognitoacon said: "NTA RSVP no. And write "I don't have the budget for a dress and a gift. You choose and contact me."

Glittering_knave commented: "I am really getting tired of people trying to control what guests wear to a wedding. Setting a dress code or theme is fine, IMO, but "every girl must wear pink, and every boy must wear blue", or "you must buy new clothes for the whole family" gets old fast. Honestly, I couldn't tell you what I wore to the last wedding I attended, and if it was new or not."

Some Redditors pointed out that her friend would not likely have made the same comment to a male guest.

Whitestaunton said: "Go back and ask her if she expect the men to all wear new Tuxedo's or suits."

Kheldarson commented: "Can we also point out that if OP were a guy, nobody would be questioning them for wearing the same suit to every wedding? Never wearing the same thing twice to formal events is a really gendered issue."

Still, some commenters believed that her friend probably didn't mean to upset her, and suggested some ways she could respond.

Longjumping_cook_275 said: "OP should send a "test the water" response. Something like "But that's my signature move. At this point I think no one will recognize me in another dress."

"If her friend responds with some lighthearted text — it's just friendly banter. If she doubles down and makes it clear she's being serious — she's an AH."

NotYourMutha agreed, saying: "Reply with, "so you want to be the one who breaks tradition?" I'd love to see a pic of the dress."

This unfortunate Redditor isn't the only one to share their wedding guest struggles with r/AmItheA**hole. The subreddit recently praised a bridesmaid who walked out on a verbally abusive bridezilla during her wedding, while another bride was dragged by commenters for kicking her sister out of the bridal party for religious reasons. Not to mention the looks-obsessed bridezilla who insulted the appearance of her bridesmaid's new-born baby.

Woman Struggling to Choose Outfit
The bride told the Redditor “don’t you dare wear that same blue dress.” A woman struggling to choose between two dresses. Pro-Stock Studio/iStock/Getty Images Plus