Dad Refusing To 'Budge' as 5-Year-Old Daughter Demands a New Pet Praised

From food to attention to vet bills, a pet is a big commitment. So, it's not uncommon to find couples disagreeing on whether to add a furry friend to the family.

One Mumsnet user took to the AIBU (Am I being unreasonable?) forum to ask if she should get a cat, despite the fact that her husband hates them.

In her post on August 17, user Luckyforyou explained that their 5-year-old daughter really wants a cat, but their husband won't entertain the idea.

"[Our daughter] talks about one every day," she wrote. "I am really open to the idea and think it will be a good companion. [Husband] hates them and will not budge. [Daughter] even asked if daddy could move out so we could get one."

Dad Refusing To ‘Budge’ on New Pet
A stock photo of a tortoise shell cat lying on a sofa. Mumsnet users told the poster it was "unfair" to get a pet without her husband's approval. kaorinne/iStock/Getty Images Plus

While dogs are America's most popular pet, cats are more divisive. A study by Budget Direct compared the number of #doglover and #catlover posts on Instagram and found that 38 states were "dog states" compared to 12 "cat states."

In 2020, The List surveyed 47,000 people worldwide, with 60 percent choosing dogs as their favorite pet, compared to 23 percent who said they were cat people.

Why are cats less popular than their canine counterparts? It could be down to personality. A 2010 study of 4,565 people found that dog and cat owners differ psychologically. Dog people were generally 15 percent more extroverted and 13 percent more agreeable than cat people, while cat owners are 12 percent more neurotic and 11 percent more open. Cat people also tended to be open-minded, while dog people were more likely to hold traditional beliefs.

Dogs may be man's best friend, but a recent study showed that 27 percent of cat owners think of their pet as their "baby." Fifty-seven percent said their cat was a "part of the family," 14 percent said "pet," while 7 percent classed their cat as a "friend."

Earlier this year, an optical illusion claimed to predict whether you're a dog or a cat person depending on which animal you can see in the image.

Mumsnet users warned against bringing a cat into the home if both partners are not in agreement.

"It would be totally unfair," said 5foot5.

"How impressed would you be if your [husband] got a pet that you'd specifically said you disliked?" asked AllFreeOwls.

"I wouldn't be indulging a child who is incredibly rude and unkind about her father," wrote Blubberyboo. "She needs discipline not a pet."

While JustSortYoursefOut commented: "A kid of 5 is far too young to have a cat - or any other pet.

"All children go through the stage of wanting a pet, but it's YOU who will be feeding it, clearing out a litter tray, taking it to the vet, combing it, dealing with flea/worm treatment.

"Cats live, on average, for 15 years. It would be irresponsible of you to get a cat when your husband doesn't like them."

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