'Embarrassed': Sister & Boyfriend Dragged for Italian Restaurant Freakout

Members of a popular internet forum were quick to call out one man who exploded with rage after he was corrected for inaccurate translations.

In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/NotRedAndWhite (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or OP) said they were at dinner with their husband, sister and her new boyfriend when an argument over Italian pasta sauces got entirely out of hand.

Titled, "[Am I the a**hole] for correcting someone at dinner?" the post has received more than 10,200 votes and 1,300 comments in the last eight hours.

Writing that the foursome was seated at an Italian restaurant, the original poster said their sister's boyfriend (called Paul) broke the ice with an elongated explanation about the names of different sauces.

"Paul goes on about how the word for red in Italian is marinara, and the word for white is alfredo, so that's how he remembers the sauce names," OP wrote.

"I told Paul I took Italian in high school, and it's rosso and bianco," OP continued. "It even says so on the wine menu."

After correcting their sister's boyfriend, the original poster said that all hell broke loose.

"Paul started yelling at me and calling me wrong," OP wrote. "My husband showed him on Google the translation for red and white."

"Paul told my sister he was leaving and called us stupid a**holes and how wrong we were," OP continued. "Paul and my sister left without paying their bill, or even getting some food."

"My sister texted me later and [asked] why do I think I always have to be right and I embarrassed Paul, and it was immature of my husband," OP added. "She said we didn't have to argue with him over something so silly...[and] that I don't have to say to people when they are wrong and embarrass them in public like that."

While pasta sauces certainly qualify as matters of life and death for chefs and other restaurateurs, thinking the names of pasta sauces are Italian translations for colors (usually) does not, and fits of rage over such blunders are often indicative of something more sinister.

In 2018, Romper published a list of relationship red flags involving a romantic partner's explosive, and often sudden, anger.

Included atop the list were "1. They Blow Up Over Little Things" and "2. They Go From Zero To 60."—two attributes potentially applicable to the viral Reddit post.

Examining romantic partners who experience rage over minor issues and lose their temper in the matter of seconds, Romper reports that "while anger is a natural emotion, anger that intensifies rapidly, perhaps going from 'zero to 60' within seconds, may be a hint at a bigger problem."

Although rage often results from underlying mental health factors, frequent bouts of anger can have a severe impact on relationships and, according to Bustle, are directly related to the transformation from harmonious romance to toxic nightmare.

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Members of Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole called out one man who lost his temper after being corrected at dinner. vladans/iStock / Getty Images Plus

However, in the viral Reddit post, the original poster said their sister defended her boyfriend and blamed his temper tantrum on OP and their husband. Throughout the viral post's comment section, Redditors pointed this out and assured the original poster their actions were more-than justified.

"[Not the a**hole]," Redditor u/ResponsibilityNo3245 wrote in the post's top comment, which has received more than 36,000 votes.

"Your sister should be taking Paul's reaction as a huge marinara flag," they continued, with a hint of sarcasm.

Redditor u/Sh*tsuri, whose comment has received nearly 5,000 votes, echoed that sentiment.

"[Not the a**hole] and I hope your sister gets past her defensiveness and recognizes this as a preview of how disagreements with Paul could fare in her future," they wrote.

"If Paul acts like that in public, he'll eventually be 1000x worse in private," Redditor u/ChinSpin_1986 added, receiving more than 1,300 votes.

In a separate comment, which has received more than 1,600 votes, Redditor u/pottsantiques offered a more fleshed-out perspective.

"Normally I'd say it's impolite to correct people over small things, but he [was] literally talking about how he knew words in a language, but actually did not," they wrote.

"Paul sound[s] insecure and self centered," Redditor u/LeftChoux added. "He had no problem teaching you, but when you do [it] suddenly you are immature."

Newsweek reached out to u/NotRedAndWhite for comment.