Ex-Wife Backed For Not Sharing Late Husband's Inheritance With His Partner

The internet has sided with a woman who admitted in a viral post that she refused to share her late husband's inheritance with his girlfriend.

On Reddit's 3.5 million-strong r/AmItheA**hole subreddit, user u/Worldly-Ad9756 shared her experience with others in the hope of getting some advice.

The 58-year-old woman detailed that she had been married to a man for 16 years, but said they divorced when the two could no longer support each other after a drunk driver killed their son.

In the post, the woman then explained that after they divorced two years ago she moved to another state, and they did not speak to each other in the years since.

She continued: "About a month ago I was contacted by the executor of his will and informed of his death. His latest will was written about a year ago.

"I was informed that he left me everything, except for $10,000 that he left to his girlfriend. They were together for two years and lived in the same house.

"Now his girlfriend is demanding that I surrender all of the inheritance to her. She says that I wasn't the one that was there for him when he was drowning in his grief, that I moved on while he was still feeling guilt over the death of our son.

"I have refused so far, but I still feel a bit guilty since I am planning to sell the house (our marital house, I couldn't bear to stay in it after our son's death) so she will have to look for housing (she can't afford to, she doesn't have a job).

The woman concluded: "Also I make a good living and own a house outright (inherited from my parents). So AITA [am I the a**hole]."

In a later edit, the woman claimed to have offered the woman permission to stay in the home free of charge for the next six months before it was put on the market, as well as her choice of what furniture and items belonging to her ex that she would like to take with her.

Since the post was shared on Sunday, it has been upvoted some 17,800 times and has been commented on more than 1,695 occasions.

The post generated a large discussion with the vast majority of commenters agreeing with the woman's decisions.

One Reddit user said: "NTA [not the a**hole]. He left her money but felt you deserved more. She had her inheritance. Don't give her a penny. He clearly had a reason to leave it to you. I am so sorry about your son."

Another added: "NTA. First, I am so very sorry for your loss. I can't imagine. My heart aches for you. Second, they were together for three years but you were the mother of his son and went through an unbelievable grief.

"There is no reason for her to receive that money. Keep it. You've done what is right."

A third person commented: "Two years of dating versus 16 years of marriage. OP (original poster), he built a life and family with you.

"The inheritance is yours and you should keep it. It is very kind of you to help her out, but your ex wanted you to have the bulk of his estate for a reason. I think you should keep it."

According to the American Psychological Association, people deal with grief in many different ways, but has recommended the following strategies to help them process the loss:

  • Talk about the death of your loved one with friends or colleagues in order to help you understand what happened and remember about them. Avoiding could lead to isolation and "disrupt the healing process."
  • Accept your feelings and consider talking to a psychologist if you become overwhelmed by these emotions.
  • Take care of yourself and your family as "the grieving process can take a toll on one's body."
  • Reach out and help others dealing with the loss as helping others can have "the added benefit of making you feel better as well."
  • Remember and celebrate the lives of your loved ones as it can be a time to honor that person's memory.
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Stock image of will. The woman shared her experience of dealing with her ex-husband's and son's death with people on Reddit, and the problem of who receives an inheritance. roberthyrons/Getty