Groom Dragged for Lying to Bride Over Disabled Sister's Absence at Wedding

The internet has sided with a young bride who took her disabled sister-in-law, Cindy, to her wedding, even though her husband and mother-in-law told her multiple times they didn't want to bring her along.

In a post shared to Reddit on Tuesday, the bride, who goes by the username JoinDawn637, asked the community if she was being the a**hole for going against her in-laws wishes, and shared details of the discussion she had with them on the day.

She said that before the wedding her husband and mother-in-law told her they didn't want Cindy at the wedding because she would take the attention away from the couple and they don't like when people ask questions about her. But the bride didn't let it go and insisted she wanted her sister-in-law at the wedding, until they eventually agreed to bring her along.

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A stock image shows a woman in a wheelchair. The internet has sided with a woman who brought her disabled sister-in-law to her wedding against her in-laws wishes. Getty Images

On the wedding day, the bride started worrying when she didn't see Cindy around. After her husband lied to her, on the very first day of their life together, telling her his sister was at the back getting medicine, he and his mom ended up confessing to leaving Cindy at home with her aunt who was looking after her while they were gone.

At this point the bride took the matter into her own hands and immediately had someone pick up Cindy and bring her to the wedding. She said Cindy sat nearby with her aunt and that her presence wasn't hurting anyone, but her mother-in-law wasn't happy about her decision.

The bride said that now her relationship with her in-laws is ruined and that her husband is still not talking to her since the wedding day.

Most users sided with the bride, and some even suggested she re-evaluates her marriage to her husband because of his behavior.

According to data published by Memphis Divorce Lawyers Miles Mason Family Law Group, divorce rates are expected to rise above the current 44.2 percent rate as pandemic-delayed divorces proceed through the courts.

About 20 percent of marriages in the country end in the first five years and 32 percent end in the first 10 years. Some 48 percent of spouses who married before the age of 18 are likely to divorce within 10 years, and 25 percent of spouses over 25 years of age get divorced within 10 years.

One user, Wolfenbro, told the bride: "NTA. Why do you want to be with this man? Seriously, he's clearly an a**hole. You may be able to get an annulment at this point, and be able to avoid the whole divorce situation. Think about this—if you were to have a child with a disability, how will he and his family treat them?"

Another user, Any_Quality4534, said: "How a person treats a person with a disability is shows 100 percent of who they are. It's very telling. For OP, it told a whole lot of bad crap."

Laurelinn pointed out: "Yeah the fact that he lied to her multiple times on their wedding day seriously pales with this realization. What a way to start their marriage. Those are some serious marinara flags here."

Some users shared their own experiences with disabled family members at their own wedding. Sensitive-Jello9171 commented: "Instead of dad/daughter (my dad was an abusive jerk and hasn't been in my life for the last 17 years), I danced with my disabled brother instead. He loved it and was giggling the whole time. :) Y'all out here warming my heart!"

VoyagerVII said: "My disabled sister was my matron of honor. I can't imagine wanting anyone else by my side that day." Frosty-Profile392 wrote: "My brother with Down syndrome is one of my Fiancés groomsmen!"

Other users criticized the in-laws' reasons for wanting to leave Cindy at home. Reallybirdysomedays said: "I'm gonna go out on a limb and guess that the "insensitive comments" are people asking why they don't bring her out more often." And Oneiroi17 added: "Oh, we didn't know you had a daughter!"

Charming-Audience883 wrote: "Not even not being there for his sister but be actively against her being there. Being lazy at involving the sister is one thing but to go out of your way to exclude her is disgusting behavior." Chinua333 said: "Plus he lied about it." And kaladee added: "On their wedding day what a great way to start off a marriage."

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