'Grow Up': Man Slammed for Telling Coworker to Cover Up Her Shoulders

In a post going viral on social media, the internet has slammed a man for telling his coworker to cover up her shoulders while working in the office.

Published to Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum, a woman under the anonymous username u/Longjumping_Draw_964 shared her story to get the opinions of the "AITA" community. The popular post has over 8,000 upvotes and 800 comments.

The Redditor began her story by explaining how her workplace has a lenient dress code where many people dress very casually. She wrote that she was wearing a tank top with thin straps and long pants. Throughout the day, she noticed that her coworker, "Brian," was giving her mean looks. When she confronted him about it, he complained about her work attire, saying she had "barely any clothes" on.

However, Brian typically doesn't wear shoes while working. He puts on sandals when he goes to the bathroom or the kitchen. The Redditor took note that at the time, he was wearing short shorts as well.

Internet slammed man for bashing coworkers attire
The internet has slammed a man for bashing his co-workers attire. He told her to cover up her shoulders when she arrived to work wearing a tank top. fizkes/iStock / Getty Images Plus

"I told Brian that I will start covering up my shoulders when he starts wearing shoes to the office. If I have to watch his hairy toes at work, he can deal with the sight of my shoulders," the original poster (OP) wrote.

"That of course didn't help, he put on his headphones and didn't even look in my direction the rest of the workday. Now I'm wondering if I was wrong to say that. He is a coworker and I should thrive for good work relationships, but I felt insulted so kicked back at him," she concluded.

Newsweek reached out to u/Longjumping_Draw_964 for comment.

The differences between business professional and business casual

Many businesses have a variety of dress code rules for their employees. While some are more lenient than others, what are the typical and professional ways to dress when heading to work?

Business professional is the most conservative office dress code, according to Masterclass.com. Typical clothes include suits or pantsuits with a button-down shirt and a tie, pencil skirts and blazers. These types of clothes should be tailored well. Flats, heels or loafers are fitting to wear on your feet.

Business casual is less strict. Per thebalancecareers.com, typical articles of clothing allowed in this dress code are blouses, sweaters, closed-toe and dress shoes, dark socks, slacks, skirts, and cotton long-sleeved shirts.

Newsweek also recently published an article about a recruiter's LinkedIn post about job interview attire and how it sparked debate.

Redditors' responses

U/CrystalQueen3000 received the top comment with over 12,000 notes, "[Not the a**hole]. That was a funny response to his attempt at shaming you for gasp having shoulders. Also, who goes barefoot at the office?"

"[Not the a**hole]. Going barefoot is way weirder and more unprofessional than bare shoulders," admitted u/thewalkindude.

"[Not the a**hole]. Bare feet all summer in the office and he acts like a child about a tank top? Grow up, Brian," u/Pink_RubberDucky said.

U/Goth_Sloth commented, "[Not the a**hole]. Your nasty-ass coworker was barefoot every day at work and he had the gall to complain about your shoulders?? Unreal."

"Very obviously [Not the a**hole]. Does he have a kink for shoulders or what? If he cannot keep his dong in check that is his problem. He is an adult he should have enough self control to not let some shoulders bother him," u/RandomIntrovertHere exclaimed.