'Half Gallon': Sober Woman Supported for Drinking Milk at Sister's Wedding

Members of a popular internet forum were dumbstruck after one woman revealed the "pretty f**king absurd" reason her family is currently fighting.

In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/brisketbirb (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or OP) said she quit drinking four months ago and brought milk to her sister's wedding to avoid alcohol and detailed the heated aftermath of that diary-related decision.

Titled, "[Am I the a**hole] for drinking a half gallon of milk at my sister's wedding?" the post has received more than 7,500 votes and nearly 800 comments since May 24.

Writing that her youngest sister packed her a bag of non-alcoholic drinks for the wedding, the original poster said she sifted through a handful of iced coffees and juices before she found what she was really looking for: a half gallon of milk.

"I'd drink with pretty much every meal," OP wrote. "I know it's a little weird for an adult but what can I say[?] I like it."

While other wedding guests drank alcohol, the original poster said she sipped her milk, inadvertently drawing attention from multiple family members, including the bride.

"I poured myself some [milk] when everyone else was drinking alcohol...I guess I was feeling nervous and a little tense being in a group where most people were drinking heavily for the first time since I've gotten sober," OP wrote. "So I kept fidgeting and nervously drinking from my cup. Honestly a lot like how I'd [compulsively] drink alcohol in the past."

"Before I knew it my uncle was like 'damn you just drank all that milk?'" OP continued. "I guess it became a running joke among everyone there, like people just started talking about it[.]"

"The day after the wedding, [my sister] confronted me saying that she didn't appreciate the 'stunt' I pulled. I was confused and she said that [she] heard I drank a gallon of milk," OP added. "I said it was a half gallon [but] she didn't find that funny and was convinced I was doing it as a joke."

Wedding season, which Brides defines as late spring through early fall, is an expensive time of year, due in part to alcohol.

Earlier this year, The Knot published its 2021 Real Weddings Study, which breaks down each part of a wedding and its corresponding cost. And while the survey revealed what most wedding-goers already know—that 93 percent of couples serve alcohol at their wedding—the actual cost of booze can be astounding.

In 2021, couples who hosted weddings with less than 50 attendees spent an average of $1,300 on alcohol alone.

At weddings with 100 attendees or more, that figure jumped to over $3,000 and with rapidly-rising inflation rates, couples marrying in 2022 are sure to pay much more for booze than they would have last year.

While 67 percent of couples surveyed by The Knot reported funding an open bar for their wedding, cost is not the only concern when it comes to serving adult beverages.

For those starting their sobriety journeys, and those with multiple clean years under their belt, wedding season can be a difficult and trying time of year. From morning mimosas to champagne toasts, weddings and their surrounding festivities often promote the consumption of alcohol, especially when drinks come free of charge.

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Members of Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum defended one woman who said she drank milk at her sister's wedding to avoid drinking alcohol. Artem Zakharov/iStock / Getty Images Plus

Throughout the comment section of the viral Reddit post, Redditors applauded the original poster for drinking milk instead of alcohol at the wedding and called out her family for theorizing that it was an attention-grabbing "stunt" and not a health-conscious decision.

"[Not the a**hole]," Redditor u/Candid-Square-8889 wrote in the post's top comment, which has received nearly 14,000 votes.

"I literally can't understand the reaction of your sister and your parents," they continued. "Maybe sarcasm is your friend here? 'Yes it is true. You got me. I planned out all the ways I could ruin your wedding and determined that drinking some milk with dinner would be the most exciting and dramatic.'"

Redditor u/Zee79, whose comment has received more than 2,000 votes, offered a similar response.

"Your family seems full of inconsiderate a**holes," they wrote. "If your [family] knew about your sobriety issues, they really should be able to process this and how harmful it can be to draw attention to your drinking of non-alcoholic drinks."

"I'm a little perplexed as to why there weren't any non alcoholic drinks provided to the point that you and your underage sibling felt the need to pack some," Redditor u/Glass_Statue_5837 added, exasperatedly.

In a separate comment, Redditor u/TheTrueGoatMom congratulated the original poster for her four months of sobriety and assured that drinking milk was far from the worst case scenario at her sister's wedding.

"You could have drank alcohol. You could have gotten stupid drunk," they wrote. "You could have made a huge drunken ass of yourself at the wedding...and REALLY embarrassed your family."

"You didn't," they added. "You drank milk."