Husband Dragged for Prioritizing Sport Over 'Lonely' Wife and Young Kids

A dad is being dragged online for ditching his wife and kids to go out and play sport, with Mumsnet users dubbing him a "ridiculous man-child."

Sharing her frustration with the parenting site's AIBU (Am I being unreasonable?) forum on 30 July, user Lionela said she was "fed up" of her husband having endless free time, while she sits at home with their two young children.

She wrote: "My [husband] plays sport twice a week and goes out whenever he wants. He also watches sport at the weekend.

"I feel as though he is never here but I don't want to be a psycho wife who never lets their [husband] do anything.

Husband Dragged for Prioritizing Sport Over Family
A stock photo shows a sad woman sitting in her living room holding a baby on her knee. Mumsnet users have advised a mom to "get rid" of her "man-child" husband. monkeybusinessimages/iStock/Getty Images Plus

"This weekend he has gone to a festival, left yesterday and back tomorrow. I feel so lonely and feel like I need more support with the kids (5 and 2)."

The poster explained that her husband's actions are causing her to fall out of love with him, and attempts to talk to him have been "pointless."

According to the Pew Research Center, fathers are more involved in housework and childcare than they were 50 years ago. In 2016, fathers spent an average of eight hours a week caring for their children—more than three times the amount of dads in 1965. The amount of time spent on housework has also risen, with modern dads spending 10 hours a week on chores compared to six hours in 1965.

However, women still do the lion's share of cleaning and child rearing, with mothers spending an average of 14 hours a week on childcare and 18 hours a week on household chores.

Mumsnet users sympathized with Lionela, with AnneLovesGilbert calling the husband "selfish."

"He's living like a single, childless man," she wrote.

"He doesn't want to be at home with you and his children and that's got to really hurt. What would you miss if you were a single mum officially rather than just unofficially?"

"What is the point of him?" asked Rafting2022.

"He's basically living the single life with sex and food thrown in," said catandcoffee.

Others wondered how much the man was spending on his hobbies and trips out.

"Have you spent similar time and money on yourself or not?" D0lphine commented.

"If not, how much time and money have you spent on yourself this year (roughly)?"

Googlecanthelpme expressed concerns that the poster's husband is gaslighting her.

"Well, you're not being unreasonable no, you know that," she said. "But he will try and gaslight you into believing that you are.

"Your partner is not supportive, doesn't do his fair share and makes you feel s*** when you try to talk to him? There's really only one option in my eyes."

LittleBoPeepHasLostHerS*** agreed, writing: "'Psycho wife'…Is that something he calls you if you ever speak up?

"That's pretty worrying, if so. You're most definitely not being unreasonable."

Lionela isn't the only parent to share their relationship woes with Mumsnet. Users recently advised a woman concerned about leaving her kids alone with her "unkind" husband to seek a divorce, while a dad refusing to pay his fair share towards his children was accused of "hoarding" family funds.

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