'I Was Fuming': Husband Dragged for Secretly Inviting Mom on Couple's Trip

Thousands of internet commenters were quick to call out one man for secretly inviting his mother on a two-week vacation originally meant for he and his wife.

In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/RoadIsland123 (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or OP) said she tried all she could to keep her mother-in-law away from the couple's trip but was unknowingly undermined by her husband.

Titled, "[Am I the a**hole] for walking out of the airport when I saw my husband's mom standing there with her luggage?" the post has received more than 14,000 votes and nearly 3,000 comments in the last five hours.

Beginning with the explanation that she has always had a toxic relationship with her mother-in-law, the original poster said she and her husband had both reserved a two-week period for an international vacation before there were rumblings of a potential third traveler.

"My husband's mom wanted to come along and threw temper tantrums when I said no," OP wrote. "She called, texted, sent people to talk me into letting her come, even threatened to call the police and make some complaint to get us to stay if she can't come."

"My husband said we should just take her but I told him he was wrong," she continued. "He gave me an ultimatum [and] said he wouldn't go if she can't come and I told him I'd gladly call his bluff, which made him take his words back."

On the couple's departure date, the original poster said she and her husband arrived at the airport early in the afternoon. However, as they walked through the airport, the original poster also said she could sense something suspicious was waiting around the corner.

"Things got quieter, suspiciously quieter," OP wrote. "My husband was walking ahead of me and was looking left and right like he was looking for someone."

"He lead me to the waiting area and [the] first thing I saw was his mom standing there with her luggage," she continued. "I froze in my spot. I felt a cold wave washing over me and I was fuming inside."

"I quietly turned around and started walking towards the exit," she explained. "My husband followed while shouting at me to stop...He tried to say I was overreacting and that his mom was there 'anyway' and I should let it go and not mess the trip up for us."

"I told him he and his mom could still go and that I was going home," she added.

Toxic mothers-in-law, sometimes referred to as "monsters-in-law," can destroy even the strongest of relationships, according to Psychology Today.

In a 2013 survey of 2000 married women, parenting website NetMums revealed that nearly 25 percent of participants reported having "bad" or "terrible" relationships with their mothers-in-law.

Issuing a myriad of complaints, including severe judgment, constant interference and undermining behavior, a portion of the women surveyed by NetMums said they were forced to move away from their in-laws and, in some cases, were forced to exit their marriages altogether.

However, for married women brave enough to weather the storms caused by overbearing and toxic mothers-in-law, vacations often serve as surefire disasters.

Wife furious at husband in airport
Members of Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum were stunned after one woman explained why she left her husband and mother-in-law alone in the airport. kieferpix/iStock / Getty Images Plus

Over the past few months, Newsweek has reported on numerous Reddit threads detailing attempts by in-laws to ruin vacations by charging their children's spouse thousands of dollars to attend, refusing to pay for their share of international trips and, like the scenario described by the original poster, showing up for a vacation completely unannounced.

In each of those viral threads, Redditors defended both married women and men against their in-laws. In the original poster's case, Redditors did the same, but pointed the metaphoric finger directly at her husband for undermining his wife and inviting his mother on vacation against her wishes.

"I don't wanna call the divorce card but.. divorce," Redditor u/PeanutButter_Toast_ wrote in the post's top comment, which has received nearly 29,000 votes.

"You told your boundaries, you said no...Your husband told you he would tell her no, he lied," they wrote. "He tried to pin you in a corner by not saying anything and bringing her anyways and got upset you refused to be a part of his little trap??"

"He needs to go," they added.

Redditor u/RubyLarkspur87, whose comment has received nearly 8,000 votes, offered a similar response.

"He gave you an ultimatum- no loving partner would ever put you in that position," they wrote. "He's a mummy's boy and she's manipulative and toxic. You have every right to enjoy a holiday with your husband without them behaving like children."

"You did the right thing," they added. "The next right thing to do is leave."

"Trust me, GET OUT NOW," Redditor u/ninjaman2021 chimed in. "He's always going to put his mother before your marriage and it's a battle you're never going to win."

Newsweek reached out to u/RoadIsland123 for comment.