Internet Backs Man Who Kicked Girlfriend Out for Insulting Adopted Brother

Members of a popular internet forum encouraged one man to reevaluate his relationship after he explained how his girlfriend insulted his adopted younger brother.

In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/No_Associate_2597 (otherwise referred to as the original poster) said his girlfriend recently began questioning the validity of his relationship with his 15-year-old brother, who his family adopted eight years ago.

Titled, "[Am I the a**hole] for kicking my [girlfriend] out after an argument?" the post has received nearly 7,000 votes and 1,000 comments in the last 10 hours.

Beginning with the explanation that he absolutely sees the 15-year-old as his little brother, and that the two are family, the original poster said his girlfriend of two years had no apparent problems with the teenager until her sister began considering adoption.

"About a month ago, she came to me complaining about how her sister is adopting," he wrote. "Saying it was cheating, especially since she doesn't have any fertility issues."

"I told her that it doesn't matter if a kid is adopted or not and that my brother is adopted," he continued. "She didn't say anything else to me about it after that. However, she has stopped calling my brother my brother. She just calls him by his name."

Recently, the original poster said his girlfriend was speaking with a friend about his parents, and noted how excited she was for the couple to become her in-laws. But when her friend pointed out that the original poster's brother would become her brother-in-law, she immediately objected.

"She 'corrected' [her friend] and told him that my brother wouldn't be her in-law since he's adopted," OP wrote.

"This caused an argument between us, with me saying my brother is my brother and her insisting that he isn't," he continued.

"She told me to sleep somewhere else that night," he added. "I told her no...and if she has the issue she should sleep somewhere else."

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Redditors defended one man who said his girlfriend doesn't consider his adopted brother his real family. vadimguzhva/iStock / Getty Images Plus

Around 140,000 children are adopted by American families annually, according to the Adoption Network.

The Adoption Network also reports that there are 1.2 million adopted children currently in the United States, accounting for 2 percent of the country's population.

However, while countless children are adopted every year, the Department of Health and Human Services reports that 424,000 children remain within the country's foster care system. And with the exception of 2019, that number has risen steadily over the last decade, according to the Child Welfare Information Gateway.

Each year, more than 23,000 children will age out of the U.S. foster care system. After turning 18, the National Foster Youth Institute reports that 20 percent of these now-adults instantly become homeless—something that OP and his family prevented from happening to his younger brother.

Throughout the comment section of the viral post, Redditors responding to the original poster commended his dedication to his family and warned that his girlfriend's feelings towards his adopted brother are a major red flag.

"[Not the a**hole]," Redditor u/mdthomas wrote in the post's top comment, which has received more than 12,000 votes.

"I don't see this relationship surviving this. She doesn't see adoption as being a viable path into a family," they continued. "Family is family. Doesn't have to be connected by blood."

Redditors u/crystallz2000, whose response has received nearly 3,500 comments, encouraged the original poster to terminate his relationship.

"OP, this woman has shown you who she is," they commented. "I would end things."

"She's a massive a**hole," Redditor u/GyroThrowAway added. "You need to reevaluate this relationship since it seems she fundamentally can't respect a huge aspect of your family."

In a separate comment, which has received more than 1,000 votes, Redditor u/Slow-Bumblebee-8609 echoed that sentiment.

"This is a MAJOR character flaw, and something you should seriously evaluate before moving forward with the relationship," they wrote.

"She will never accept over half of your family, and will make sure that everyone else around her knows her feelings [on] the matter," they added.

Newsweek reached out to u/No_Associate_2597 for comment.