Internet Backs Couple Keeping Wedding Secret from Family, Inviting Friends Only

Weddings are occasions traditionally spent in the company of close friends and family.

However, one soon-to-be-married couple have taken the unusual step of excluding family from their upcoming nuptials. Though that might seem controversial to some, it's a move that has earned the backing of many online.

In a post shared to Mumsnet, a woman explained how she and her partner are planning a "very small, cosy wedding next year."

"We want as little fuss, pomp and ceremony and stress as possible," she wrote. "Also we don't have a lot of spare money to have a big and elaborate do."

Having originally considered marrying in front of two random witnesses, the happy couple eventually settled on an idea that would see them mark their happy union in the company of "a handful of close friends" and with no family present.

"We couldn't do it with family as I have a very large family which would extinguish any possibility of a small wedding," she explained.

However, when she mentioned the plans to a close friend, and the fact they were planning to keep it a secret, the friend expressed shock at the idea of excluding family and told her she thought it was "sad" that they couldn't be there.

It's a development that has left the bride-to-be questioning whether they are making the right decision by leaving family out.

Despite this, the idea has gained plenty of support online.

"I think you, and everyone else should have the wedding they want," LivingNextDoorToNorma wrote. "I would be completely supportive of any of my siblings doing it without me there."

AuntMarys said: "Do it!!! We did similar. Nobody kicked off and if they had, would have been ignored," while ImInStealthMode agreed: "You should have exactly the wedding that you want."

PinkSyCo commented: "The amount of money some people spend, and the amount of time and money they expect their guests to spend on their wedding is quite vulgar."

They added: "I think your way is much nicer and you should do whatever makes you happy. And if other people have a problem with it then that shows that they don't really care about your happiness so weren't worth inviting anyway."

TedMullins added: " For many people their friends are closer and more important than family. If any of the siblings were also close friends I assume they'd be among the 8 invited."

Even so, others like DDivaStar could see both sides of it.

"I can see why siblings or children may be hurt by being left out, assuming you get on," they wrote. "I think you need to be realistic that close family might not understand and it could impact your relationship in future."

3WildOnes agreed: "I would be upfront but also prepared that some of your siblings could find this very hurtful and it may irreparably damage your relationships with them."

Writing on Brides.com, Whitney C. Harris and Jaimie Mackey highlighted the pitfalls of large families when it comes to a wedding day.

"Extended family invitations are tricky," they said. "The general rule of thumb is if one uncle gets an invitation, all of your aunts and uncles need to get an invitation—the same goes for cousins or second cousins too."

"This isn't much of an issue for small families, but with a large extended family, this can take up the bulk of your guest list," they warned.

This isn't the first time a wedding invite has sparked controversy on social media. One woman recently took the difficult decision to boycott her sister's wedding after she refused to extend an invite to her girlfriend.

On a similar theme, another woman decided to skip her sibling's nuptials after the bride-to-be requested that her sister's disabled husband be omitted from any and all photos.

A husband and wife.
Stock image of a bride and groom - one couple have been backed over their decision to exclude family from their wedding plans. Getty