Man Slammed For Threatening to Ditch Brother's Wedding As His Ex Is Invited

The internet has sided with a woman who won't let her brother-in-law decide who is invited and who isn't invited to her wedding.

In a post shared on Mumsnet last Friday, a woman who goes by the username rageyfeminist asked the community if she was being unreasonable for not letting her brother-in-law manipulate her into not inviting her best friend to her wedding.

Rageyfeminist explained that she met her best friend 10 years ago through her brother-in-law, and became very close. However, once the couple broke up, her brother-in-law tried to undermine their friendship.

She explained that her best friend has moved on from their breakup and has now a new partner and a baby, while her brother-in-law, who is a 40-year-old man, is still hung up on her.

He asked her to disinvite her best friend from the wedding and told her that he won't attend the wedding if she is there, as he believes this is just another excuse for her to get back at him.

Rageyfeminist said she talked about this with her future husband. He took her side, saying it's not fair for her to miss out on any happiness because of him.

According to a survey by YourTango about 71 percent of people say they think about an ex too much. When narrowed to singles, the number goes up to 81 percent. Moreover, about 57 percent of single people said thinking about their ex prevents them from finding new love.

The research also shows that most married people also still think about their exes. About 60 percent said they think about their ex too often, and 36 percent of them said their attachment to their ex interferes with their marriage.

The internet entirely sided with the bride-to-be. One user, BBQBoke said: "Nope, have your bestie there, OP. Why should her, and you, lose out when it's him that's the dick." Custardbear

AnneLovesGilbert said: "If he doesn't come everyone wins but him, and he's horrible. Stick with that option."

Pumpkinpie01 reassured her: "Your bf sounds lovely and understanding so stick with the invite to both of them, you cannot uninvite her you would always regret it."

thewreckofthehesperus pointed out: "Men like that tend to thrive on drama so I'd put money on him being adamant he won't attend but then actually showing up on the day. I'd also have people well warned to keep an eye on him at the wedding if he does attend so that he doesn't try and spoil the day!"

Holidayroundthecorner tried to explain the situation as seen from the outside: "Your friend has done nothing wrong and deserves a place in your big day. Bil is a disgrace and won't be missed. Seeing you happy will be more than enough for your dh (dear husband)."

Some people came up with the perfect solution. Blinkingheckythump said: "Invite both, it's the one who doesn't come [who's] the issue." HunterHearstHelmsley added: "He's invited. She's invited. He does not get to decide who you invite to your wedding. Your fiance has said he is fine with it. Equally, if you uninvite her, the wedding will be partly spoiled for you. And your relationship with her would be damaged."

Orwellwasright warn the bride-to-be that her friends has feelings too, and disinviting her would hurt her a lot: "Can you imagine how hurt your friend will be if you tell her she can't come? You are not telling your BIL he can't come. His absence is all on him. Please don't capitulate."

MrsTerryPratchett said: "Blood or not, if you ruin someone's wedding because you're an a***hole, don't come. In this case it sounds as though the rubbish took itself out. Don't give it another thought." And pictish added: "Yanbu (you are not being unreasonable), he's just trying to control everyone and make your wedding about him. Don't play along. If he chooses not to come he owes his brother an apology. That's it."

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The internet has sided with a woman refusing to let brother in law decide who goes to her wedding. Above pictured a stock image of a wedding cake. Getty Images