Spouse Dragged for Opening Up Marriage With Wife: 'Most Idiotic Decision'

A spouse who regrets persuading his wife of 23 years to go to an open marriage has been criticized online, with many saying he should not have been shocked by the outcome.

In a viral post shared in the TrueOffMyChest group on Reddit, user TTThrowawayyy44 wrote: "I made the most idiotic decision of my life. I felt things were lackluster and wasn't attracted to my wife as I once was. Had a crush on a coworker. Convinced my wife to open our marriage.

"My coworker ended up not being interested but my wife has more dates and men than she knows what to do with. She refuses to close it back up so my options are deal with it or divorce," he said.

While an "open relationship" can mean different things for couples, it generally means both partners can have sex with other people. A YouGov poll in April 2021 found that a quarter of Americans would consider a nonmonogamous relationship. A 2021 study published in the journal Psychology & Sexuality suggested that people in open relationships were 20 percent happier in traditional relationships.

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A stock image shows an upset man and a woman. A spouse in a Reddit group said he regretted convincing his wife to have an open marriage. Getty

Since the post was shared online, it has attracted some 15,500 upvotes and 2,400 comments. Most of those who commented were critical of the husband's decision and asked him what he expected would happen.

One Reddit user simply posted: "Be careful what you wish for."

Another said: "You really thought it was going to be different because you thought your coworker was attracted to you.

"Just like literally every single one of these stories. What made you think this was gonna be different? Literally, every failed open marriage starts with wanting to f*** their coworker and then opening the marriage," the user said.

A third commented: "Is she still with the guy she met? If so, damn did he blow up his life. I mean, he did blow up his life already, but holy f*** that has to burn."

Tammy Nelson, director of the Integrative Sex Therapy Institute in California, previously told Newsweek: "More people than ever before are creating a monogamy agreement that works for them.

"Monogamy may be an idealized version of love, but is not practical in a world where couples marry later, live longer and find themselves outside of the historical/social constructs that don't align with their values," Nelson said.

Newsweek reached out to u/TTThrowawayyy44 for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.

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