'Wealthy' Man's 'Cheap' Gift For Girlfriend Slammed: 'Very Degrading'

Online commenters criticized a "wealthy" man who presented his girlfriend with a "cheap" gift during a recent family outing.

The man's girlfriend, u/aita-bfwiwowoeoe, shared the story last week in Reddit's "Am I The A**hole" (AITA) forum. It has received 8,400 upvotes and over 1,600 comments slamming the "degrading" gift. You can read the full post here.

In her post, the 21-year-old said the "humiliating" moment took place on her boyfriend's parents' yacht.

"At one point, everyone [sat] down together, and my boyfriend [brought] out gifts. His parents and siblings and their significant others got things like watches, dresses, fine wines, and other clearly expensive things," she said.

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Online commenters criticized a "wealthy" man who presented his girlfriend with a "cheap" gift during a family outing. Kerkez/istock

"When he got to me, he gave me one of those plastic bracelets with [his] company's name on it. You can get those at the company's main headquarters for free," she continued.

Although she said she was "embarrassed," she didn't want to be "rude," so she thanked him for the bracelet and waited until they were alone to ask about it.

"When we got inside, I asked my boyfriend what that was about and he told me to be grateful and stop complaining because he always gets me nice gifts, which is true...[but] I feel like what he did was very degrading. He could've gotten me no gift at all and that would've been less humiliating," she wrote.

When she confronted her boyfriend about the gift again a couple of days later, he admitted he initially had something much bigger planned that ultimately wound up being a scam.

"He actually managed to set up a day with me and this adorable cat I follow on TikTok...but the owner had backed out last minute, even after charging a s**t ton," she said, adding that by the time he realized he'd been "scammed," it was too late to get her another gift.

Online Scams

According to an analysis of FBI data by fraud prevention firm SEON, younger generations are "falling victim to online scams at a higher rate than ever before," CNBC reported.

SEON found that roughly 23,000 people younger than 20 reported fraud in 2020, a 116 percent increase from 2019. The group's collective losses, said CNBC, totaled nearly $71 million or roughly $3,000 per person. Additionally, 70,791 people in their 20s reported fraud in that same year, with an average loss of $2,789 per person.

"The trend is clear in that fraud doesn't discriminate by age, and that being digital-first doesn't make you immune to scams," SEON product evangelist Gergo Varga said via CNBC.

Speaking to The Independent, Ross Martin, the head of digital safety at Barclays, said anyone, regardless of age, can fall victim to a scam.

"Unfortunately, fraudsters don't discriminate when it comes to scams and everyone, irrespective of age, is susceptible to them. The reality is that if you don't think you'd ever get scammed, you're the ideal victim."

Redditors React

u/aita-bfwiwowoeoe has since forgiven her boyfriend for the whole ordeal but said at the time, she was really upset. Many Redditors said she had every right to be unhappy, and some even said that in the event the gift was a misunderstanding—which it was—he wasn't right to react the way he did.

"Gonna say NTA [not the a**hole] on this one...it's not just about the material items; it's about showing the person how much you value them," u/GuyYouMetOnline said. "Of course, it's also possible he completely forgot to get you something and tried to hide this fact, but that's not okay either. Being honest in such a situation is way better."

"I'm not a materialistic person. I look more into the effort of the gift, rather than the price. However, it's clear he gave absolutely no effort into your gift. NTA," u/alexxmcn wrote.

u/Objective-Mention126 added: "He literally could have gotten you a box of chocolates. Or nothing, nothing would have been better."

Newsweek has reached out to u/aita-bfwiwowoeoe for comment.

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