Woman Applauded for Fiery Response to Jab From 'Child Level' Brother-In-Law

Members of a popular internet forum were quick to defend one woman who recounted her brutal takedown of her hypercritical brother-in-law.

In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/Achievementall (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or OP) said she came under verbal attack at a family dinner and had no choice but to respond with the same kind of fervor and vitriol.

Titled, "[Am I the a**hole] for my response after my [brother-in-law] told me I'm 35 and still don't know what I want?"] the post has received nearly 9,000 votes and 1,300 comments in the last ten hours.

Writing that she is the oldest of four, the original poster said all of her siblings are married with children, but explained that she is childless and not currently in a relationship. Despite familial pressure to find her "future husband," the original poster also said that her current lifestyle suits her needs and that she no longer deals with "lies, trust issues and mistreatment."

However, every time the original poster comes into contact with her sister's husband, the 35-year-old said she is quickly reminded of her family's displeasure with her life choices.

"My [brother-in-law]...keeps commenting on my 'status' whenever I visit. Talking about how I need to find my 'better half' and have kids," OP wrote. "Usually I respond by ignoring him but he [keeps] throwing more comments publicly."

Noting that her sister's husband "sleeps all day, [is] unemployed, doesn't help with child care...but also likes to call the [shots]," the original poster said that during a recent dinner, her brother-in-law completely crossed the line.

"[Brother-in-law] brought up my personal life by asking a stream of questions about my plans. I tried to ignore him but he said that I'm 35, single, childless, and don't even date," OP wrote. "I looked at him in shock as he went on to say that I 'clearly' am confused and still don't know what I want in life."

"In response I told him that 'yes, I clearly don't know what I want but I do know what you want, what you really want, and that is child level responsibility, and king level authority in your family,'" OP continued. "[I] then told him I'd rather spend the rest of my days single [than] be stuck with someone like him."

In 2018, The Seattle Times published an advice column bluntly titled: "Dealing with a brother-in-law who's a bully."

Responding to a reader's complaints about her brash brother-in-law and his many unsavory personality traits, Seattle Times columnist Carolyn Hax made it clear that, no matter how calling out harmful behavior may affect familial harmony, a failure to address the issue will have a severe impact later down the road.

"The consequences won't be fun, but neither is the kind of silent — and, frankly, gutless — shunning you've resorted to instead," Hax wrote. "Sharing what the problem is lets you all decide whether and how it gets fixed."

Recently, Newsweek has reported on multiple Reddit threads detailing toxic brothers-in-law and attempts by family members to call out sexist and misogynistic behavior, acknowledge the practice of "weaponized incompetence," or to simply knock their sibling's husband down a peg.

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Members of Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum defended one woman who snapped at her rude and hypocritical brother-in-law at a family dinner. JackF/iStock / Getty Images Plus

In each of those cases, Redditors stood firm in defense of those family members, and in opposition to toxic, harmful brothers-in-law. In the case of the original poster and the dinner table debacle caused by her brother-in-law, Redditors reacted in a similar manner.

"[Not the a**hole]," Redditor u/jrm1102 wrote in the post's top comment, which has received nearly 11,000 votes.

"Sure, what you said was a little on the rude side but I'm sure you have been biting your tongue long enough and he's clearly been an [a**hole] to you," they continued. "Good for you for sticking up for yourself."

Redditor u/dark_binniee, whose comment has received nearly 3,000 votes, offered a similar response.

"Your [brother-in-law] clearly can dish it but not take it," they wrote. "If I were you I would have listed off all the things you mentioned he doesn't do and ask him why you would want a husband like that."

"He can't continuously make s**tty and judgemental comments about your life choices and then...sulk on the one time you return the favour," Redditor u/CrystalQueen3000 added. "Well done for calling out his [bulls**t] and putting him in his place."

In a separate comment, which has received more than 2,000 votes, Redditor u/Velocityg4 twisted the words of the original poster's brother-in-law, while calling out his qualities as a husband in the process.

"[Not the a**hole]," they wrote. "Sounds like your sister hasn't found her better half yet either."

Newsweek reached out to u/Achievementall for comment.