Woman Backed for Not Wanting to Name Daughter After 'Embarrassing' Word

Commenters online supported a woman after she refused to name her unborn daughter after her husband's late grandma, because it is a "rude" word in her language.

The anonymous woman, known only as u/Working_Standard_329, posted about her situation in Reddit's popular r/AmITheA**hole forum where it received more than 11,000 upvotes and 2,100 comments, with many users supporting her for not settling on the name, which she revealed was Fanny.

In 2020, there were only nine babies named Fanny, according to babynames.com. However, recent studies have shown that parents are shifting away from the top 50 common baby names in lieu of more unique choices.

In the post titled, "AITA for not wanting to name my daughter something that's a rude word in my language?" the woman, 30, explained that she and her husband, 37, are expecting their first child and are discussing potential names.

The woman said she and her husband are from different countries and speak each other's languages. She clarified she is British, but it is unclear where her husband is from. She also said that they currently reside in her husband's country.

Woman refuses to give daughter name
A woman went viral online after revealing she did not want to name her unborn baby after her husband's grandma because it was "rude" in her language. NataliaDeriabina/iStock

"When we found out we were having a girl, my husband said he'd like us to name her after his grandmother who passed away recently and who he was extremely close to," the post read. "I think this is very, very sweet idea, and I would have no problem with it were it not for the fact that, to put it bluntly, her name in my language means female genitalia."

She explained that in her husband's country, the name Fanny does not have any association other than being pretty, and since they live in his country, he does not see an issue with giving their daughter that name.

"It'll be embarrassing for her to introduce herself with that name when we visit," the post read. "If we ever moved back (we're not planning to, but you never know) and she had to attend school there, she'd definitely be bullied for it."

The couple argued over the name, with the woman suggesting that it be used as a middle name, but her husband insisted on it being used as the first name. The expecting mother also suggested changing up the name slightly, but her husband refused.

At one point, the woman said her husband accused her of being "embarrassed" by his culture.

"I'm in love with his culture and I think the name is very pretty, it's just that I know our daughter will visit my country too and she'll have such a hard time there with that name," the post read. "Am I being the arsehole to insist we use it as a middle name or change it slightly?"

In the comments, thousands of users poured in to show support for the woman as well as offer up potential compromises including using a different version of the name such as Francis.

"Do not name your poor child Fanny," one comment read.

"I would 100% not use that name unless I hated my child and wanted it to be bullied," another wrote.

"Couldn't you call her Tiffany? It's not my favorite name but it is a thing and she can go by Tiff rather than Fanny," another user suggested. "Your husband is being deliberately obtuse."

Other users mentioned that parents often want to honor their dead relatives without realizing the child might get bullied or hate the name.

"Your husband needs to understand that when your daughter visits her mother's country in the future, it would not be good to have a name that would embarrass her," one user commented.

Newsweek reached out to u/Working_Standard_329

Baby names are often a point of contention among expecting parents, sometimes leading to a fight or seeking advice on the internet.

One woman took to a popular internet forum to ask for advice over agreeing on a baby name with her husband. In the post, she explained that her husband suggested "Ozymandias and Balthazar" while she liked "more traditional names" such as James or Isaac.

Another expecting couple recently went viral after their chosen name for their unborn son shocked family members. Meanwhile, another couple had the internet up in arms after sharing their plan to name their daughter "Reighfyl," which is pronounced as "rifle."