Woman Ditches Date Over Claim He Feels 'Marginalized' As a Straight Male

A woman has defended her decision to abruptly end a date with a man after he told her that as a "straight male" he "often feels marginalized."

In an encounter caught on camera and posted to TikTok under the username javeeeeeeeeee, an unidentified man can be heard attempting to claim his gender and sexuality have put him on the periphery of modern society.

While he speaks the camera remains fixed on his date, who posted the video online, as she briefly contemplates what he is saying, rolling her eyes and looking down the lens before responding: "I'm going home."

The video, which she posted twice with a caption describing it as the "shortest date in history caught on camera," has been viewed a combined total of 6.4 million times on TikTok.

You can watch the jaw-dropping clip here.

Her actions drew widespread support from her fellow TikTokers as well as sparking off a debate around the differences between marginalization and hurt feelings.

Lastofthereal applauded her brutal honesty. "Proud of you for leaving right away, so many people stay because they feel obligated to," they wrote.

Otobongudofia, meanwhile, was in despair at her date's claims, commenting: "The lack of self-awareness from that man is astounding."

Jakethediseaseecologist agreed: "Straight white men have nothing if not the audacity."

Antheiamae joked: "He's gonna use this an an example of his marginalization just watch LMAO."

Savageking.ca, however, failed to see the funny side: "Men need to understand that if you're straight and white there isn't systemic issues you can face because of your race."

Rowaxxne concurred: "Men made the patriarchy, so therefore they can take it down if they so choose. Notice they haven't and just get defensive."


Men can’t live with them can live without them good thing I didn’t waste time getting ready lolz #men #fyp #foryoupage #parati #foryou #pourtoi #joke

♬ Leave Get Out x JoJo x DB99 - Samoan Prince 🇼🇸

There were some who felt she went too far in dismissing his comments.

John10777 wrote: "What's wrong with someone saying they feel treated as insignificant?"

Innershadowwork added: "The patriarchy damages men too. Not as much as women, but many people are too close-minded to think both sides can suffer from it. Let him have his voice."

That argument fell flat with some though.

Lavender_author said: "Everyone who doesn't understand: feeling upset/ignored is not the same as being marginalized."

Laurenwedge went further, writing "If you're upset about this you're a part of the problem."

Rararetep wondered aloud what must have preceded the recording and prompted her to pick up her camera in the first place.

"I just know he said something wild OFF camera to make you even prompt filming," they wrote.

The original poster later jumped into the comments section to defend her decision to cut and run from the date, regardless of the circumstances, after some accused her of proving his point by leaving without hearing him out.

"I'm allowed to leave even if he said nothing at all," she said. "That's the beauty of choice."

Newsweek has reached out to javeeeeeeeeee for comment.

A woman looking unimpressed.
Stock image of a woman looking unimpressed. A woman on TikTok has shared her own unimpressed reaction to her date's bold claims. Fizkes/Getty

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