Woman Slammed For Revenge Plan After Sister Was Proposed to at Her Wedding

A bride received online support after revealing her plans to stop her sister's wedding day "revenge" plot.

Posting in Reddit's "Am I The A**hole" (AITA) forum under the username u/lemonsareuponus, the bride asked: "AITA for not letting my sister announce her pregnancy at my wedding even though I got proposed to at hers?" The post has garnered over 9,000 upvotes and 1,400 comments from Redditors who slammed the bride's "selfish" sister for holding a grudge, especially after the extensive apology from the unsuspecting sister.

Wedding Etiquette

Of course, many experts agree that it's in bad taste to stage a proposal at someone else's wedding.

"The day of someone's wedding is one day out of an entire year," etiquette expert Elaine Swann said speaking to Real Simple. "We have to keep in mind that the couple is creating a memorable moment that will last a lifetime and a proposal should not be part of the one day that the couple has to themselves: Let them enjoy it!"

Author and etiquette Diane Gottsman echoed Swann's sentiment, adding: "It's always best to make your own memories, which don't include another bride and groom in the picture!"

Of course, Gottsman understands that there may be times when staging a proposal at someone else's wedding makes sense, like if the wedding is the only time an entire family may all be gathered together. Still, Gottsman says these proposals should be "pre-planned" and "pre-approved" by the bride and groom.

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A bride received online support after revealing her plans to stop her sister's wedding day "revenge" plot. Jikaboom/istock

'Am I The A**hole?'

In her post, u/lemonsareuponus said she didn't expect her now-ex-boyfriend to propose to her at her sister's wedding.

"I rejected his proposal and ended up leaving him after a few weeks of him showing no signs of him being sorry at all. My sister was rightfully upset with the both of us because in her eyes we had just [taken] away her spotlight on a day she's been dreaming of for years," she wrote.

Wedding Day Hijacking

To make it up to her sister, the sister covered half the costs of the wedding, which amounted to roughly $15,000. The bride assumed all was forgiven after this; however, her sister has been "making jokes" about hijacking her wedding day.

"At first the jokes were funny and I thought they had no real threat to them but after today it was pretty clear she was not actually joking. My mom called me telling me that my sister said she was going to announce that she was pregnant during the speeches...to get back at me for what 'I' did during hers," the bride wrote.

She called the whole plan "unfair," and eventually told her sister that if she didn't "drop it" then she would be uninvited from the wedding.

"I guess she's been crying to all our brothers saying I'm a b**ch and a s**tty sister for not only ruining her wedding but for not letting her get a tiny bit of revenge," the bride said. "I get it, it must be hard to have that happen at your wedding but how should it be my fault?"

Redditors React

Redditors agreed that u/lemonsareuponus shouldn't be held responsible for her ex-boyfriend's proposal and slammed her sister for holding the grudge. Some also pointed out that u/lemonsareuponus gave her sister $15,000 following the proposal and argued that if her sister wants to go through with the pregnancy announcement then she needs to give this money back.

"NTA [not the a**hole]. You paid for half of her wedding because of what your ex did. It wasn't your fault, and she is being ridiculous. Is she prepared to give you back the money you gave her? What your ex did was horrible, but it's been years, and she needs to get over it," u/Fuzzyhat246 wrote.

"You had no control over your ex's poor decision so I don't understand why anyone blamed/blames you...If anyone is a s**tty sister here it is her. Spoiling your wedding would be a deliberately selfish act and won't change what happened at hers," u/bplayfuli commented.

u/Jolly_Tooth_7274 added: "NTA. She is holding a grudge against you for something you didn't do, something you showed more than enough contrition for (despite not being your fault), and something she already accepted compensation from when she took your money."

Newsweek has reached out to u/lemonsareuponus for comment.

Other Viral Moments

On Wednesday, a wedding guest made headlines after a video of him dancing while a fire blazed behind him went viral on social media. A Maryland "flower man" also went viral on Tuesday for upstaging the bride and groom with a hilarious wedding entrance.

And a Redditor received viral support after sharing that they don't want to perform an original song at their sister's wedding.