Woman Slammed for Trying to Sneakily Name Newborn After Dead Husband

A man's wife was criticized after sneakily getting him to agree to name their newborn son after her late husband.

The anonymous man, known as u/NameUndecidedness, posted about the situation in Reddit's popular "Am I The A**hole" forum where it received nearly 10,000 upvotes and 2,500 comments. The post can be found here.

In the post titled "AITA for telling my wife there is no way she is naming our son after her ex?" the man explained that his wife lost her first husband, James, eight years ago. He added that she was pregnant at the time but miscarried soon after his death.

According to data published by Bowling Green State University, an estimated five percent of women in the United States under the age of 40 are widowed, with that number rising to about 12 percent for women under the age of 50.

Man says no to baby name
Commenters criticized the woman for essentially tricking her husband into naming their son after her late husband. RyanKing999/iStock

The man said they are now expecting their first child, a boy, and that she wants to name him James.

"I told her that's just too weird for me and while it's a nice name, I don't want to name my son after her ex," the post read.

Eventually, his wife suggested the name Oliver and he said he loved it and agreed. But three days ago, he said her family came over for dinner and he told them they decided on the name.

"Her sister then said 'oh, so like James??' and I was confused, so sister said 'well that was James' middle name, wasn't it?"

After dinner, he told his wife he'd "had it" with her trying to "push her ex" into their lives but she argued that they'd already agreed on Oliver.

"I told her I'm not signing the birth certificate if she names him after her ex," the post read.

The man said his wife thinks he is being "insensitive" and her mother says he should "let it go" because it was a middle name.

"Her sister says it's weird to name the baby after the ex in any scenario," the post read. "Aita?"

Nearly 2,500 users commented on the post, many criticizing the man's wife for sneakily trying to name the baby after her late husband.

"How is it okay that she tried to trick him into naming their child after her last husband after he explicitly said he wasn't comfortable with that, come on NTA," one user commented, receiving 20,000 upvotes.

"Your wife should have disclosed that Oliver was James' middle name," another commented.

"She is being completely disrespectful and unreasonable," another user commented. "A child's name is something both parents should agree and be happy with."

"While I do sympathize with OP's wife and her loss, how is it reasonable to want to name your child with your current husband, after your late one? F**king hell..." another wrote. "She can honour her late husband in several other ways that does not include naming their child after him. That's too much imo."

Although some users called out the man's usage of "ex-husband" instead of "late husband," he explained that English isn't his first language and he wasn't aware of the important distinction between the words.

Newsweek reached out to u/NameUndecidedness for comment.

More commenters were shocked in another viral Reddit post after a woman revealed that her sister decided to name her newborn after OP's late husband who died three months prior.

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