Woman Supported for Kicking Nieces and Nephews Out: 'Garbage Parenting'

A woman has found support online after she barred her sister-in-law and her kids from coming into her home, and many think she made the right call.

The now-viral Reddit post, titled, "AITA for not allowing my SIL [sister-in-law] and her children into my house when my husband isn't home," has been upvoted 10,700 times since it was shared on June 2. Redditor @Intelligent-Bear1617 shared the post to the subreddit "Am I the A**hole, and the original poster (OP) revealed her husband's older sister has three children who are 6, 8, and 9 years old.

According to Statista, a 2021 worldwide survey revealed that 57 percent of respondents judged parents for the way their child or kids behave. In addition, 59 percent revealed they judge parents for how they manage the child's behavior as well.

Kids playing in play area
A woman was supported for kicking out her nieces and nephews. Here, three children playing in a ball pit in a play area. IMAGE SOURCE/GETTY

The OP revealed her sister-in-law allows many behaviors that can be "destructive or messy" from her children, and she relayed that is totally "fine" in her in-law's house. But in the OP's home, she doesn't like it.

Her husband has told his sister before that she needs to "make it clear" that their house rules are not the same as hers, but she just "brushed" her brother off.

These kids will kick a ball around inside, breaking our possessions more than once, will bounce on the furniture with shoes on and leave stains on them, have emptied storage containers in our house on the floor and walked away with what they wanted to get, leaving the rest there.
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The OP added: "These kids will kick a ball around inside, breaking our possessions more than once, will bounce on the furniture with shoes on and leave stains on them, have emptied storage containers in our house on the floor and walked away with what they wanted to get, leaving the rest there."

She and her husband have both "stepped in" and asked them not to do that type of behavior, and the reply they received back was, "You're not our mom/dad."

The OP is obviously aware that's true, but it's their home. She revealed they've put things up only for the kids to go get the item anyways. They told them not to wear shoes inside, and the kids told them no.

The woman continued: "They have also gotten other balls when we take them away while they play with them inside. They're the very same at my IL's [in-law's] house. The oldest even told [my] FIL [father-in-law] to f**k off when he corrected them. So, I made the decision that if my husband wants to deal with all that he can, but while I am home without him, they are not coming in."

Recently the OP's sister-in-law tried to come over with her kids while her brother was away working. The OP told her she "wasn't allowed in" and to talk to her brother and determine when he's home, and she can then come over if he allows it.

Apparently, the woman's sister-in-law was "pissed," and the OP's husband told his sister he chose not to let her in the house anymore, either. However, the OP is "the worst offender" in her sister-in-law's eyes.

'Am I The A**hole?'

Over 600 comments poured in over the viral situation, and people overwhelmingly believe the OP isn't the one at fault. Numerous people slammed the OP's sister-in-law for the way she allowed her kids to act as well.

This is a failure to parent on your SIL's part. She's failed to teach her children manners and respect for others. You are not obligated to suffer the consequences of her inaction.
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"NTA [not the a**hole]," a Redditor said. "This is a failure to parent on your SIL's part. She's failed to teach her children manners and respect for others. You are not obligated to suffer the consequences of her inaction."

In a comment to another user, a Redditor admitted they wouldn't even classify the woman's actions as "garbage parenting," adding, "there is no parenting going on here at all! I wouldn't want these little s**ts in my house either. I wouldn't stand for any of this from my kids."

Another user wondered who actually wants "hooligans in their home?" They reasoned if the mother doesn't "control" her kids and lets them act the way they have been in other homes, pretty soon it won't just be the OP who stops having the family over.

"The fact that the children are brats who speak badly and do not listen to adults is purely on your SIL, and she should then deal with the consequences," they added. "Who cares if she thinks you are TA [the a**hole]. You can at least live in peace in your own home without damage and having things broken."

One user doesn't think the OP deserves their home "messed up" because they have a sister-in-law that doesn't "discipline" her kids. "Honestly, I wouldn't have put up with it," they said. "If those kids had flat out said 'no' they wouldn't be allowed to stay. Your home. Your rules."

What a horrible parent she is to her children and frankly, you put up with it for too long before kicking them out.
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Some people didn't mince words with their thoughts on the matter. Another user weighed in with their verdict of NTA, or not the a**hole. "What a horrible parent she is to her children and frankly, you put up with it for too long before kicking them out," they said. "Good for you for sticking to your guns."

Another Redditor thinks the OP should ask her sister-in-law if she would let her into her own home "after you repeatedly broke her possessions, disrespected her, made a mess in her home, or left it dirty. She does not get to decide how your home is being treated, if you set boundaries they are to be obliged."

Newsweek reached out to Redditor @Intelligent-Bear1617 for comment.

This isn't the only viral moment involving families. A woman found support for not swapping her meal with her pregnant cousin. A man was backed for revealing to his family that his sister is actually his mom. In addition, a woman was supported for tricking her in-laws into eating her food.