Woman Told to Dump Boyfriend For Refusing to Cover Dinner

In a now-viral post, a woman said she recently stormed out of a group dinner with her friends and boyfriend.

Posting in Reddit's "Am I The A**hole" (AITA) forum under the username u/Fantastic_Ad_9067, the woman asked: "AITA for leaving the restaurant after my boyfriend refused to pay for my meal?" The post has garnered more than 15,000 upvotes and over 2,000 comments from supportive Redditors, telling the woman to dump her boyfriend. You can read the post here.

At the beginning of her post, the woman said she lent her boyfriend money several weeks ago, but he's yet to pay her back.

"He was supposed to pay me back five days ago but something came up and he didn't. [I've] tried to be patient," she wrote.

Angry woman at restaurant
In a now-viral post, a woman said she recently stormed out of a group dinner with her friends and boyfriend. JackF/istock

To make matters worse, the woman said she was robbed the day of the dinner.

"I canceled my cards but the bank customer service told me my new card with my new details (both physical card and the digital details for Apple Pay) would be available the following morning because the banks were closed that afternoon. So I had no money," she said.

When they arrived at the restaurant, the woman told her boyfriend he could either pay her back or, at the very least, cover her meal, seeing as she had no money. Her boyfriend, however, said he didn't have enough on him to pay for them both, so he ordered himself a "nice meal" and offered her his "scraps."

In response, the woman got up and left.

"Our friends now believe it was very low of me to get up and leave...AITA?" she asked.

Should You Lend Your Partner Money?

u/Fantastic_Ad_9067's story illustrates why many financial experts advise people not to lend money to their partners.

Speaking to Bustle, Chelsea Hudson, a personal finance expert at TopCashback.com, said lending money to a partner can cause resentment and ultimately "jeopardize the relationship."

"Even if you love and trust your partner, loaning money can lead to further issues, such as resentment, tension, and additional debt," Hudson said.

Author Mark Kantrowitz agreed, saying: "If your significant other defaults on the loan, it can ruin your relationship—you may lose both your partner and your money at the same time."

Worse, wealth advisor Lauren Anastasio said lending money to a partner could prolong a relationship that's "already over."

"An outstanding loan can add restrictions to an otherwise amicable breakup or keep you connected to an ex you'd prefer to remove from your life," Anastasio told Bustle.

Redditors React

Many Redditors told u/Fantastic_Ad_9067 to dump her boyfriend, arguing he's disrespectful and "can't be trusted with money."

"NTA [not the a**hole]. But your boyfriend sure is and has shown he can absolutely not be trusted with money. I would write off the loan and walk away from this relationship before you get more entangled financially," u/Tanyec said.

"NTA. This comes down to basic respect. He is a walking red flag who doesn't respect you," u/princessreybey wrote. "He is showing you who he is, especially in regards to money. Believe him and leave him."

u/Emotional-Ebb8321 added: "You've just found out what kind of a man he is. Remember this and think about whether this relationship has legs. You might want to think of that money as being well-spent on never seeing him again."

Newsweek has reached out to u/Fantastic_Ad_9067 for comment.

Other Viral Relationship Posts

On Tuesday, online commenters told a Mumsnet poster to leave her husband, who had a five-year affair.

On Monday, Redditors called on a woman to admit to a cheating husband's wife that she'd had an affair with him.

And commenters warned a woman last week who said she wants to leave her husband to pursue an ex.