Boss Entering Worker's Home To Check on Them Slammed As 'Inappropriate'

A worker is seething after their boss turned up unannounced at their home to check on them, then let themselves in when they didn't answer the door.

The employee described their manager as "completely inappropriate" for deciding to come round after they took some time off, based on their behavior in an online meeting.

The worker shared their anger to Mumsnet, under username HerveLeger, as they explained: "My line manager turned up at my house at 14:00 today. Rang the doorbell—I didn't answer because I wasn't expecting a delivery. I live in the middle of nowhere, I don't get random callers. I don't lock my back door.

"Next thing I know, my manager is in my house. 'Just checking.' Apparently I sounded a bit weird in the team meeting this morning. Which is odd, as I didn't actually speak in the team meeting."

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File photo of enraged boss. A worker shared a "scary" tale of their boss letting themselves into their house to check on them. cyano66/Getty Images

They added some background context, writing: "Am I BUR to find this completely inappropriate? She is a lovely person and I have had some mental health issues in the past. For which she has been very supportive.

"But this was one day—half a day, when I wasn't present at work. She let herself in... next thing I knew, she was in my sitting room. It was a bit scary."

The post, which can be seen here, has racked up more than 380 replies since being posted on Monday.

The worker shared more background information in the comments, revealing that while they're not an officer, they work for the police.

"And I checked both my phones—work and personal—there had been no attempt to call me. I am not in the least suicidal, which she would know. We speak every other day, and have various email conversations. And you know, sometimes I just don't want to speak to people...

"And whilst I get her visit came from a place of care, I still think it inappropriate. Don't hate her for it, it's lovely that she did care. But just... wrong. Oh, and I work for the police. If there was need for a welfare check, they would have responded," they continued.

The staff member, who lives in a rural part of the U.K., clarified: "My original point was, I attended the team meeting (on Teams) from 9—10.30, I was working after that time.

"Apparently my team leader said I sounded odd. So it's about 3.5 hours that I was absent. I always sound odd. It's part of my charm."

The boss' actions were deemed as coming from a place of concern online, but numerous people felt she had overstepped the mark.

Maytodecember wrote: "She was obviously worried about you. And if you don't get random callers then surely someone at your door meant to be there? I really think this was genuine concern for you."

Whowhatwherewhenwhynow thought: "This is so weird. Why didn't she just call you? This is massively over stepping boundaries!!! I'd complain if I were you."

Pemba asked: "What the hell? She could at least have phoned you if she couldn't get a reply, (rather than let herself in, who DOES that?) but this was completely unacceptable imo. I hope you let her know that. I assume this was during working hours?"

Cherrysoup reckoned: "Extremely weird. I'd be totally p***ed off if my manager did that. Did you allow her to stay?"

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Octomore pointed out: "I mean, her rocking up at your house is weird and inappropriate, but you ignoring your own front door is also weird."

Gizlotsmum asked: "Had she tried calling? How did she get in? I would assume it came from a place of good intent. But I can see why it made you feel uncomfortable."

As the worker stated, police are able to perform welfare checks, which isn't limited to those only employed by the force.

North Devon and Cornwall Police have guidance on when it's appropriate for cops to carry them out, stating in their operating procedure they'll respond when: "There is an identifiable and immediate risk to life or property; The adult at risk or child is suffering or are at risk of suffering immediate and significant harm;

"It is reasonably believed that a crime has been committed or is about to be committed; and / or Attendance of a Police officer is necessary to prevent a breach of the peace."