'Resignation Not Accepted'—Boss Tries To Guilt Worker Into Staying in Job in Viral Post

A concerned worker has alleged that his boss has not only refused to accept his resignation but is trying to guilt him into staying in his role with no extra benefits.

The claim was made in a post shared to Reddit's "Antiwork" subreddit by a user writing as kaihoneck. At the time of writing, it has racked up over 66,000 upvotes.

In the post, the man purports to be a "data management worker" who said he has been overworked and underpaid for several years now.

"I'm the only person in my department, and have been working for $17ish an hour for the last three years, with laughably small raises. (+- $.20/year)," he writes. "I asked for a raise to $22/hour toward the end of 2021, and it was rejected, with a counter offer of $18.50."

Unhappy at the situation, he said he wrote out a letter of resignation and gave it to his boss. However, almost immediately, it was challenged with his manager telling him he had "been offered more of a raise than the last three years combined" so "didn't need to quit, resignation not accepted."

Despite acknowledging that he has a "good relationship" with his boss, the worker said his employer was mistaken if he thought he could just "order" him not to quit.

Unfortunately, his manager has refused to relent for the entire duration of his 14-day notice period. The man said that every time he reminded his boss he was working his notice, he was told he "can't leave" as it would be "debilitating" for all of his co-workers.

He was also warned that his departure would result in "untold losses for the company" and was told he would need to "help transition" a new person into the role, with any failure to do so likely to result in "legal action," according to the post.

Yet throughout this period, his boss refused to improve on the initial raise offered, instead telling the man they could "maybe" renegotiate a raise after the first quarter of the year.

Worried at the prospect of facing potential legal action, the man turned to Reddit for support and found it in abundance, with users dismayed at his employer's response to his resignation.

Lordroode was "genuinely shocked" at the post and dismissed the manager's threats as bogus. "They can't take any action if a worker decides to leave a job," they wrote. "A good boss and a good friend would shake your hand and wish you the best in the future and could leave the door open for you in the future if you wanted to return," they added. "What he's doing is pure manipulation."

Gelinrefira commented: "It's the sheer arrogance and entitlement that gets me. Not accepting his resignation and expecting him to cave by just ordering him to stay?"

Kitchenjesus said the manager ultimately only had himself to blame if there was any fallout to the worker leaving. "These people are so blind to their own stupidity it's amazing. He screwed over his employees by not retaining this guy and deciding not to hire a replacement in the very generous two weeks they gave him to cover it," they wrote.

Discalced-diapason said that the reality was the manager determined that "screwing over" the worker was "more important" than "making sure to not leave the company in such a detrimental position."

One of the most telling responses came from MikeAllen646. "We as employees have been gaslit over decades to believe we owe the company anything out of some sort of loyalty. Big business is in no way loyal to you," he wrote. "You gave them ample warning. They can fire you any time. You have the same power."

It's a response that speaks to the re-calibration of work-life relationships for many in the wake of the coronavirus pandemic, with millions opting to quit overly demanding jobs or roles where they have gone unappreciated by their employers.

Dubbed The Great Resignation, statistics have shown that in November 2021 alone, 4.5 million Americans quit their jobs. This particular worker is no different.

Newsweek has contacted kaihoneck for comment.

A boss and a letter of resignation
Stock images of a letter of resignation and an unhappy boss. A worker has claimed his employer is refusing to accept his resignation and is trying to guilt him into remaining in the role. BeeBright/ fizkes/Getty