Bride's Parents Spark Outrage With Wedding Gift Based on Husband's Income

A mother and father of the bride have sparked fury after it emerged they gifted their daughter considerably less than her sibling due to the "lifestyle" she'd chosen.

In a Reddit post upvoted over 19,000 times, a user claiming to be the newly married woman posting under the handle WeddingGifted detailed how she discovered the disparity between the amount given to her and her older sister.

While gift registries are a familiar part of any wedding celebration, some guests still prefer to hand over cold hard cash to the bride and groom. It can be born out of indecision, a lack of thought or the belief that money is the one thing all newlyweds need, but one thing is certain: gifting money remains a popular option.

In a survey of its users, the wedding website The Knot found that while 42 percent of people surveyed still purchased a gift off the registry, 29 percent preferred cash or a check and around 14 percent went off-piste with a gift not found on the registry.

A bride holding some wedding gifts.
Stock image of a wedding bride holding assorted gifts. A newly married woman has detailed how she discovered her parents gave her half the amount gifted to her sister at her wedding. AS_Fotos/Getty

It's often the case that the parents of the bride or groom will offer cash to the happy couple as a means of setting them up for the future. That was certainly the case for the newlywed woman detailing her experience on social media.

However, it was only after returning from the honeymoon that she learned of an apparent disparity between her and her sister. "We are very fortunate to have grown up in a household where my parents made very good money," she wrote. "They were generous with us, but raised my sister and I to be hard-working and not dependent on them as adults."

The bride noted that while both she and her sister "do well financially" and her sibling's partner is also a high earner, her husband's job, despite being one he loves, does not have "a ton of earning potential" though she is "happy" with their life together.

But while the bride appeared content with the life she chose, she has now begun to think her parents feel otherwise after discovering from her sister that they gave her sibling "more than twice" what she and her new husband received.

When she later confronted her mom about the apparent disparity she was told her sister had "chosen a partner that can accommodate the lifestyle she's used to" so they had "gifted her accordingly."

Her mom went on to explain they had given her an amount "according to the lifestyle" she had chosen. Though the bride acknowledged she had no right to feel aggrieved given that any financial gift received was more than most could hope for, she was still "hurt" by her mom's actions.

Those following along on social media felt she was right to feel upset.

"There's a lot of reasons that would have made sense and been OK, including a simple 'we're not in the same financial situation we were in when we gave your sister her wedding gift,'" Gnothro wrote. "But to make it about how much you guys make, is basically a passive aggressive way of saying 'you got less because you picked a partner we feel is beneath you.'"

Speakeasy12345 was concerned at the potential impact of the parents' actions, writing: "Seems like a way to pit sisters against each other and make the 'lesser' sister resent her sister who, due to life choices, will likely always have more resources."

Legendarrian commented: "Seems like they just want to punish you for choosing a spouse that makes less money than they would have preferred. Honestly, if your sister's husband is so well off, why would she need additional money as a gift?"

Jemma_2, meanwhile, concluded: "Maybe the parents think sister and her husband work harder than the bride and husband and so thought they 'deserved' more and that's why they gave them more? Totally crap logic but that's the only way I can see it making any sense at all!"

Elsewhere, TelevisionVarious branded their approach "super unfair and honestly cruel" with f-dapolice writing: "Sounds like the parents blatantly have a favorite daughter, and a favorite son in law and are now upset they've been called out."

Newsweek reached out to u/WeddingGifted for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.

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