Bride Slammed for Not Inviting Brother-in-Law's 'Needy' Fiancee to Wedding

A woman has been slammed online after not inviting her brother-in-law's fiancee to her wedding.

Published to Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum, a woman under the anonymous username u/aitainvite shared her story to receive feedback from the "AITA" community. The viral post has over 2,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.

The original poster (OP) began her story by explaining that she and her fiance, "Harry," both grew up in family-oriented households and that Harry is close to his siblings. However, Harry's brother, "Jack," doesn't interact with his family much. He sends texts to them and attends family gatherings every now and then.

They found out that Jack is engaged to "Liz," whom the OP met last year, but doesn't know much about her. She explained that they've been engaged for a while but didn't tell anyone until recently.

Bride not inviting brother-in-law's fiancé to wedding
A couple getting married. In a viral post on Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum, a bride has been slammed for not inviting her brother-in-law's fiancee to her wedding. MaximFesenko/iStock / Getty Images Plus

"She's nice enough and very beautiful (although she doesn't utilize it at all/doesn't dress up), but she's kind of needy, like she's literally always clinging onto Jack and not making an effort to talk to the rest of us (and he always makes excuses for her). We've all tried talking and including her, but it's a one way conversation and the only time she contributes something of her own is to go on about her work," she said.

When the wedding invitation got to Jack, he noticed that he didn't receive a plus one.

"I don't consider Liz close enough to be invited," the OP exclaimed. "Jack RSVP'd no, when Harry called to ask why he said he won't be attending without Liz. I also talked to Jack and said we understand his decision, but we're just not very close to Liz. Harry added that maybe he should reconsider and he could have fun at the wedding, with a bit of time off from Liz but Jack pretty much went off and called us selfish."

Newsweek has reached out to u/aitainvite for comment.

Should every guest at a wedding deserve a plus one?

A plus one is typically a person that gets invited to a wedding by a guest. Does everyone invited to a wedding receive a plus one? It depends. If the couple has unlimited space, they could offer everyone a plus one. If not, it might be a select few who get to bring someone.

Who should get a plus one? According to theknot.com, anyone who is married, the wedding party or a "VIP" guest. A "VIP" guest is someone whom the married couple knows, but the guest wouldn't know anyone and would feel more comfortable with someone they do know.

Who doesn't necessarily need a plus one? A guest who is "casually dating" or single guests who know others attending, per wedding-spot.com.

Newsweek has published many articles on the topic of weddings, including where a man refused to attend his sister's wedding for which he is paying, a guest who was backed online for a complaint over a "ridiculous tradition" that ruined a wedding, and debate sparked after brides reveal what they wish they knew when wedding planning.

Redditor reactions

"Yes [You're the a**hole]. This isn't a casual date, it's someone he's decided to spend the rest of his life with. It's rude to invite only one half of a couple. What does it matter if you aren't close with Liz? You're close with Harry. Don't be so f**king stingy over paying for one extra meal you damage your fiance's relationship with his brother," u/thewhiterosequeen said, receiving the top comment of over 10,000 upvotes.

U/whatsmypassword73 wrote, "[You're the a**hole], seriously, they're engaged and he's the brother of the groom? That's low, I wouldn't show up either. You have some serious amends to make."

"[You're the a**hole] It's your future sister in law. It's not worth being petty for the damage that will do to your relationship moving forward," u/ksarr226 commented.

"[You're the a**hole]. Holy cow. Jack is immediate family, and even if he were single, he should have a +1. This is really basic decency, and to act as you have you've gone out of your way to personally insult him by singling him out and diminishing his relationship with your future sister in law," u/mdkroma exclaimed.