Dad Backed for Canceling Mother's Day After Wife Told Stepson to Stay Home

A dad has been backed for canceling Mother's Day celebrations after he overheard his wife telling his son not to come.

The dad took to Reddit under username FredWalker37 to explain he was a widower, later meeting his current wife, who had a 16-year-old daughter from a previous relationship.

The 37-year-old claimed everyone got along, although his 13-year-old son was shyer than both women and "keeps to himself a lot."

He wrote: "My wife and stepdaughter are the complete opposite. They both encourage him to be outgoing and share activities and join gatherings with extended family.

"My son complained about having to be forced out of his comfort zone and having his need for space invalidated.

"I spoke to both my wife and stepdaughter and asked them to give him space and freedom to spend his time however he wanted. They apologized and promised to let him be."

Big Celebration Planned

With Mother's Day approaching, he planned a big celebration with his wife's family at nearby restaurant.

But as he came home earlier than usual to prepare, he overheard his wife and stepdaughter talking to his son.

He wrote: "My wife was asking my son if he could convince me to let him stay home and not go with them to the restaurant to celebrate. I paused and decided to keep listening. My son said why and she told him that his introverted and socially inept "attitude" will make her family uncomfortable and will ruin the mood.

She snapped and told him that technically, she's not his mom so she didn't get why he wanted to celebrate mother's day with her so badly."
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"He promised her that he'd be well behaved and would try to interact and socialize with everyone but she said that she wasn't buying it. He kept reassuring her but she snapped and told him that technically, she's not his mom so she didn't get why he wanted to celebrate mother's day with her so badly."

He claims his stepdaughter made a "backhanded comment" before they both spotted him standing there, and they looked "shocked" to see him.

"Both were staring without saying anything. I told my son and his stepsister to go to their rooms then told my wife that the celebration was off, canceled. she tried to argue asking why repeatedly and I told her why.

"She tried to explain that she didn't mean it like that and that I only heard part of the conversation but not all of it.

"I told her I was done arguing and the decision was already made. She yelled asking what she was going to tell her family and said that I was making [a] tremendous mistake towards her."

He added his wife and her daughter had gone to stay with her family, and he'd not heard anything from them.

The dad added: "Situation is full of tension. I'm upset still but more hurt to be honest. I mean yes I did say I was going to have this celebration but I thought that what she said to my son was too harsh to ignore."

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His post, shared on Sunday, has already amassed more than 25,000 upvotes, and can be read here, as people overwhelmingly supported his actions, as they voiced concerns it may not be the first comment his wife had made.

Suckerforcats wrote: "Harsh is an understatement. She's a bully and abusive. Your son will grow to resent you if you don't do something about this."

No-Royal6008 commented: "NTA. Guarantee they have done this before. Circle the wagons, protect your son. Such disgusting abuse from your wife upon your son. To make it even worse, she is raising her daughter to be cruel and exclusionary. Your son deserves so much better."

Sad-Ad-2383 wrote: "Dude this isn't harsh. This is straight up cruel. Why are you downplaying what she has done stand up to them. Talk to your son without them let him tell you what they do when you are not home. I won't go and say divorce her but seriously think on what steps to take to ensure your sons health. Nta."

Saurons-cataract commented: "My heart hurt for him when I read about him trying to convince her that he'd be social so that he could go. This would be my hill to die on and I would leave her. She will never see him as her child in any capacity and his bio mom has passed away so this is especially hurtful and cruel."

Serious-Pudding309 thought: "This. Your son's silence is learned behavior. It's time for you to have a serious chat with your boy about the past few years."

While DiamondKitsune added: "I mean, the trash already took itself out, so he just has to not let it back in. Seriously though OP, you're NTA yet. But what you do now for the sake of your son can honestly make this go either way. She and her daughter showed you their true colours. Believe it."

Mother's Day was created by Anna Jarvis in 1908, and it gradually grew to become a national holiday.

According to the National Retail Foundation (NRF), spending this year was expected to total $31.7 billion, up $3.6 billion from 2021.

Quoting the annual consumer survey released by the National Retail Federation and Prosper Insights & Analytics, the site forecast around 84 per cent of American adults would be celebrating the holiday.

The average spend for people was estimated to be $245.76, with jewelry and meals out top of the list of ways to mark the occasion.

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