'Embarrassed and Angry': Man Backed For Stranding Date After Ageist Tirade

Members of a popular internet forum were left appalled after one man recounted the insulting comment a recent date lobbed at a waitress in a busy restaurant.

In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/throwaway8574744699 (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or OP) said he was on a dinner date with his sister's friend when she unleashed an ageist insult so brutal he left the restaurant immediately.

Titled, "[Am I the a**hole] for not paying for the food and leaving my date stranded?" the post has received nearly 9,000 votes and 1,000 comments in the last day.

Beginning with the explanation that he picked his date up and that the couple enjoyed dinner together, the original poster said that after eating, the meal quickly turned hostile.

"After we finished eating, she asked the waitress to refill her glass of water," OP wrote. "The place was packed and the waitress passed by our table multiple times."

"Instead of a friendly reminder, she told [the waitress that] if she's mentally declining she should be in a retirement home instead of leaving people thirsty," OP continued. "The poor woman looked like she was about to cry."

Following the abhorrent comment, the original poster said he was furious and attempted to rectify the situation before leaving his date to pay her half of the bill.

"I was shocked, embarrassed and angry at the same time," OP wrote. "I [asked] her why the f**k would she even think about that sentence let alone say it out loud."

"I excused myself and went to apologize to the waitress. I paid for the food I ordered, tipped her big time and left," OP continued.

"This morning my sister called me angrily, saying how much of an a**hole [I am] for what I did to her friend," OP added. "I wasn't interested in arguing with her so I said I'll send the money to give to her friend and told her god have mercy on both [of] their future boyfriends."

In 1998, author Dave Barry put words to a moral principle many believe to be true.

"A person who is nice to you, but rude to the waiter, is not a nice person," Barry wrote, in Dave Barry Turns 50.

While Barry's late-90s musing is believed to be the first time the "Waiter Rule" was mentioned, it certainly was not the last. In fact, the belief that a person's treatment of waitstaff is indicative of their true personality is so popular that the Waiter Rule has its own page on Wikipedia.

Included on multiple dating websites as a major red flag, the Waiter Rule has the potential to make or break new relationships. Recently, lifestyle website More said that the improper treatment of waitstaff should be treated as a window into the future for romantic partners.

"If you're date is willing to be rude to your waiter...[they] either [have] an issue with power or simply doesn't understand that we're all on this planet together," More writer Silas Barnes asserted.

"Decent, common courtesy is a harbinger of good things when looking for a mate," Barnes added. "The lack of it is a big red flag. If your date is willing to treat a waiter with such little respect, then someday, [they'll] be willing to treat you like that."

Man disgusted at date's treatment of waitress
Members of Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum were shocked by one woman's ageist comment made to a waitress in a busy restaurant. innovatedcaptures/iStock / Getty Images Plus

Throughout the viral post's comment section, Redditors denounced the ageist insult issued by the original poster's date, commended the man for standing up for the waitress in a meaningful way and took aim at OP's sister for defending her friend's behavior.

"[Not the a**hole]," Redditor u/Rddtmcrddtface wrote in the post's top comment, which has received more than 13,000 votes. "Nope."

"You're good in my book," they continued. "And good on your for recognizing your sister is just as bad as the friend."

Redditor u/TheCurvyGamerGirl echoed that sentiment.

"Your sister sucks. The date sucked. I'm glad you stuck up for the waitress because not many people do," they wrote. "You aren't obligated to spend your money on anybody, and she was stupid to go out with somebody she's never met without any money."

"To start with, you didn't promise to pay," Redditor u/tatasz chimed in. "If she assumed something, there is a reason assume contains the word 'ass.'"

"Her behaviour to the waitress was utterly disgusting too," they added.

In a separate comment, which has received nearly 3,000 votes, Redditor u/darthnesss remained adamant that nobody, regardless of who they are, has a right to disrespect service workers.

"She f**ked around and found out," they wrote. "No one has the right to be that kind of rude to wait staff, no matter how important they believe themselves to be."

"People who are rude to service workers (excluding when they're actually [a**holes] which is rare) are outing themselves as s**tty people," Redditor u/Independent_Big3345 added in another comment, which has received more than 5,000 votes.