'Get Over It': Woman Slammed After Complaining That Neighbor Keeps Baby Up

Commenters criticized a woman after she complained to her neighbors that they were being too loud and were keeping her newborn baby awake by opening their garage door at night.

The anonymous neighbor, known only as u/MelodicStrategy1569, posted about the situation in Reddit's popular "Am I The A**hole" forum where it received 15,600 upvotes and 1,600 comments, many saying the neighbors were being unreasonable about noise.

While homeowners do have the right to undisturbed use and enjoyment of the property including excessive noise, there is a difference between excessive noise and a normal amount of noise in residential areas.

While the noise limit varies depending on the state or city, many areas use decibels to measure noise limits. For many residential areas, noise exceeding 70 decibels is considered disruptive noise.

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An anonymous user went viral on Reddit after stating their neighbors blamed their "noise" on the reason their newborn cannot sleep. OP explained that they make minimal noise and commenters are supporting them for standing up to the neighbors. Koldunova_Anna/iStock

The Centers for Disease Control (CDC) states that a normal conversation or an air conditioner is about 60 dB, while a washing machine is closer to 70 dB. Long-exposure hearing damage begins at 80 dB, according to the CDC.

In the post titled "AITA for telling my neighbour to get over it when I wake her baby up?" the original poster (OP) explained that their neighbor's baby sleeps in a room about 10 feet away from their garage.

The garage is equipped with an automatic door that quietly beeps four times when OP or their partner arrives home and pushes the button. OP explained that the beeps are so quiet that they sometimes can't hear them while sitting in the room adjacent to the garage.

Recently, OP's neighbor had a baby, so they said they've made an effort to be more considerate of their noise level.

"Despite already sound proofing my rumpus room, I've stopped playing my drums after 6pm," the post read. "I've also declined hosting friends outside in my backyard due to noise. I think I've been more than considerate, but apparently not."

OP explained that when they get home from work at 11 p.m., they park their car in the garage.

But a couple of weeks ago, their neighbor approached and asked if they could wait to park their cars in the garage until the morning since the garage door beep wakes up her newborn. OP declined, citing multiple car break-ins in the area.

"I apologised but was firm when telling her that I will not, under any circumstances, leave my car out overnight," the post read. "I also know that they sleep with their window open that faces my garage, but I thought it would be weird to bring it up and suggest they close the window."

OP also mentioned that they have a louder-than-normal exhaust on their car but that their neighbor has never said anything about it, which had them confused.

The other night, OP said they saw their neighbor's car blocking the driveway enough that they couldn't pull into the garage. They added that they pushed the button before they reached the driveway so it beeped regardless, so it was "useless."

"They didn't come out so I had their car towed and they haven't done it since," the post read.

During the weekend, OP was playing drums in the soundproofed room located at the rear of their property and far from any neighbors during lunchtime.

Although OP explained that only minimal vibration can be heard from outside the room, their female neighbor came over to complain that she had "put up" with the noise for "too long" and that she was "exhausted" because her kid never sleeps.

She also blamed OP's "noise" for waking up her baby.

Still mad about the recent car situation, OP said they "snapped" and told her that they'd been considerate enough in terms of noise.

"I said that while it's within my right to play music up until 10pm in our council, I've cut myself off at 6pm in consideration of her and her kid," the post concluded. "I said that from now on she'll have to get over it because I was done catering to her and her family."

OP also mentioned in the comments that a member of the council came over with a dB reader and "everything was above board."

Nearly 1,600 users commented on the post, with the strong majority of users supporting OP and calling out their neighbors for being "entitled."

"NTA. It sounds like you've been very reasonable and you're allowed to live your life," one user commented, receiving 20,500 upvotes. "They chose to have the baby. Surely they knew things might wake it up?"

"It is not everyone's job to be accommodating to the growing family (up to a certain point)," another user added. "The best advice I've gotten when I started my family is once you bring a newborn home, make it as noisy as possible so they learn to sleep through anything. It works."

Some users offered potential reasons why the female neighbor is attacking OP about their noise level, saying she's probably exhausted and needs to blame it on someone.

"She is probably fixated on you and your 'noise' because it's something that's right next door and something she can directly 'attack' in a manner of speaking," one user commented. "It sounds as if she's unlucky enough to have one of those babies that just doesn't sleep much, or well. That's not your fault though."

Newsweek recently reported on other neighbors who were criticized for being "entitled" and sensitive about noise.

One incident went viral on TikTok where commenters called a woman's downstairs neighbor "unstable" after he was filmed yelling at her about being too loud.

In April, Newsweek reported on another viral TikTok showing a woman's neighbor reacting to her being "too noisy" after her broom fell.

Another woman was slammed after she revealed she wanted to get her neighbor and her kids evicted for being too loud.