Husband Bashed for Siding With Pregnant Sister Over Eating Wife's Food

The internet has dragged a husband who sided with his pregnant sister after she ate his wife's food.

Published on Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum, a woman under the anonymous username u/Sal9653133 shared her story in order to receive feedback from the "AITA" community. The viral post has over 21,000 upvotes and 2,000 comments.

The original poster (OP) began her post by explaining that her sister-in-law who's seven months pregnant recently moved in with them and can be described as a picky eater who "refuses" to eat what the OP and her husband cook.

Due to this, they only cook what she enjoys. However, what her sister-in-law likes, the OP can't eat because of her allergies.

Sister-in-law eating brother's wife's food
Above, a couple is upset with each other. Published to Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum, a husband has been slammed for siding with his pregnant sister after she ate his wife's food. Viktoria Korobova/iStock / Getty Images Plus

Recently, her husband said that he will cook one meal for his sister and another meal for himself and the OP. After the OP had a long day at work, she found out his sister convinced him to cook the meal she wanted and not theirs. Instead, the OP ordered food from a restaurant.

When the OP came for her food—which was placed on the kitchen counter—it was opened, as someone ate "the majority" of it.

"I turned around and there was SIL standing saying she woke up hungry and couldn't "resist" the smell that was coming out of the box," she said. "I lost it and yelled at her asking wtf she did that but she said that she did save me some which isn't true because there was only some rice and dressings."

"We started arguing and I told her I couldn't take this anymore and told her to pack her s**t and leave first thing in the morning. She began crying and my husband got involved and defended her up and down repeatedly saying she's pregnant and is eating for 2 basically," she continued.

Her husband told her to quickly make herself something from the fridge, only for a bigger argument to occur.

Newsweek has reached out to u/Sal9653133 for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.

Newsweek has published many articles regarding conflicts with in-laws, including a woman who "embarrassed" her in-laws at a family wedding, a wife who planned to block out her mother-in-law after her comment about money and a woman who called out her "extremely creepy" brother-in-law.

How to work out problems in your relationship without having heated arguments

"One way a couple can solve a problem without having a heated argument is to first ask our partner if there is a good time to discuss something hard," Dr. Meaghan Rice, PsyD, LPC, a licensed Talkspace therapist, told Newsweek.

"Regain your composure before going into a conflictual conversation. Go for a walk, take a hot shower, or try some deep breathing as a means of achieving that composure."

Rice also suggested prepping your partner for the idea that a hard conversation is going to happen and coming from a place of solving the problem together as a team as well as coming to the conversation with an open mind and several options on how to aid the situation.

Redditor reactions

"[Not the a**hole] And you don't have a SIL problem. You have a husband problem. Don't get me wrong: your SIL sounds like a spoiled, selfish, and entitled piece of work, pregnant or not. But your problem is that your husband is more concerned with her health and happiness than yours. He needs to get his priorities in the right place," u/macladybulldog wrote, receiving the top comment of over 39,000 upvotes.

U/mm172 said, [Not the a**hole], and honestly, I think your husband should go with her. She's not an infant herself; she can make her own food if she doesn't want what everyone else is having. And if she wants more when she's done with that, she can find a way to get it that doesn't involve depriving you of even one meal."

"[Not the a**hole] and your husband kind of sucks. I get pregnancy cravings and all but the entitlement of your SIL is off the charts. Being pregnant doesn't take away basic human decency and self-control. I'd tell hubby it's her or you, because right now it seems like you're the roommate and she's the wife," u/angelaheidt explained.

"[Not the a**hole] and hold your ground. She's taking advantage of your kindness and mistreating you. Your husband is also a big problem and should also take himself out with his garbage can of a sister. They both belong on the curb," u/barbiegirlshelby commented.

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