Internet Sides With Woman Not Allowing 'Bully' Niece on Vacation

The internet has backed a woman for refusing to let her sister-in-law come with them to their vacation home for a holiday.

In a post on the Reddit forum r/AmITheA**hole on Tuesday, u/Budget-Problem9946 shared the story which now has thousands of reactions.

She explained: "My husband and I are planning a week-long vacation at my vacation home that I inherited from my parents some years back. We are leaving Friday and coming home next Friday. We are bringing my three kids, my husband had mentioned bringing along our mutual friends and their two daughters and I was completely okay with this.

"I told him to invite them as our kids get along great and they are good company. The vacation home has lake access with canoes and kayaks and plenty of fishing/swimming areas. However, they can't make it due to work."

Family vacation and angry child
A file photo of a family arriving at a vacation home together, left, and a picture of a young girl throwing a tantrum, right. The internet has sided with a woman who refused to allow her "bully" niece to come on vacation with her family. Tom Merton/SeventyFour/Getty Images

When their friends were unavailable, the woman revealed that her sister-in-law "Jen" had asked if she and her 12-year-old daughter could come away with them.

"I immediately said no. Absolutely not, under no circumstances," explained the Reddit user.

She continued: "I know I'm 100 percent going to sound like an a**hole here, but I do not like this child and can barely tolerate my sister-in-law. My sister-in-law raised 'Emma' to believe she had autism. Everything that Emma does is excused as 'well she has autism and doesn't think or react the same way as other kids.' She is a massive bully to both kids and adults. I can't even count how many times she has looked at me while I'm talking and said 'Will you just stop talking? It's really annoying.'"

Jen had told the couple that her daughter needed a "mental health break" from school and asked if they could tag along, but when the Reddit user refused because "this is supposed to be our break, not an added headache," the woman was furious.

"Now she is fuming at us," said the poster. "Saying her kid needs the break and she feels like we are being unnecessarily harsh."

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reported that 1 in 44 children in the U.S. are diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder. With boys four times more likely to be diagnosed with autism than girls, diagnosis in boys is around 1 in 27, while girls are diagnosed at a rate of 1 in 116.

Reddit users overwhelmingly agreed with the poster, telling her she was right to refuse to allow her sister-in-law and niece on the holiday.

One commenter said: "Even if Emma has autism, it is an explanation for behavior but not an excuse," while another wrote: "If her child needs a break, then she is welcome to provide that break. She doesn't get to make other people do it for her."

"This is a vacation, not a therapy session or summer camp for [your] sister-in-law and difficult child," agreed another user.

Another Redditor said: "You have no obligation to bring people on your vacation, especially people you don't even like."

"She can rent an Airbnb on her own, someplace quiet," suggested another commenter. "Your time should not be ruined. I am constantly amazed that people try to horn in on free trips."

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