Man Slammed Online After Admitting He Married Wife for Money: 'Horrible'

The term "gold digger" has a certain image attached to it. It is stereotyped as a young, attractive woman searching for a rich older man to pay her bills and buy her gifts. It's rare to find a man slapped with the same title.

One Reddit user has gone viral for admitting he married his wife for her money. In a post shared to the r/TrueOffMyChest forum, user u/Throwawaycam0 admitted he'd chosen his wife because she was rich, but eight years later, the guilt is starting to weigh on him.

Man Slammed After Marrying Wife for Money
A stock photo of a woman handing a man a banknote. Reddit users described the man's actions as "horrible," calling him a "gold digger." Ana-O/iStock/Getty Images Plus

He wrote: "I have been with her for her money from the moment we started dating.

"I treated my relationship with her like a second job. I tried to be perfect in every way until I ask her to marry me."

The man wasn't expecting his marriage to be a long-term arrangement, and was planning to file for divorce after "two to three years." However, things took a surprising turn.

He continued: "I fell in love with her and she truly changed me from the selfish asshole I once was. She gave me a family.

"Our 8th wedding anniversary is next month. and I still feel guilty to this day."

A 2019 survey by retail banking company Merrill Edge found that 56 percent of Americans favor financial security over love when choosing a partner. However, most couples surveyed postponed discussing their finances until after many other major milestones had passed, including sex, meeting the parents, going on vacation together or talking about politics. Issues such as debt, spending habits and salary were more likely to be put off for as long as possible.

Although "gold digger" is a phrase usually directed at women, a 2015 study found that Millennial men are more likely to date someone for money. Of the two in 10 singletons who said they'd marry for wealth, 40 percent were Millennial men, compared to 25 percent of Millennial women.

Experts have cited the financial instability this generation faces as a possible reason for the trend. The study also showed that Millennial men are less likely than previous generations to see a romantic relationship as crucial to their happiness, as well as more likely to display narcissistic behaviors.

Since being shared on Monday, the post has received over 10,000 upvotes and nearly 900 comments from users unimpressed by the man's actions.

"You should feel guilty. Just because you fell in love with her doesn't make you any less of an asshole," wrote hetgal101.

"I feel bad for her cos her entire relationship is built on a lie by this gold digger," said EquivalentSnap.

Many users begged the man not to tell his wife the truth.

SnooApples25 commented: "Don't ever tell her. Consider the guilt you're feeling your punishment.

"If you tell her you'd feel relieved but you'll be punishing her instead."

"The reasons you got with her are not the reasons you ARE with her right now. Keep being the best husband you can be."

Josiesvacation agreed, writing: "I am happy for her that it ended this way.

"Obviously never tell her if you want to stay with her. It's the most selfish thing people do to off their own guilt by 'coming clean' and ruining the life of the other person."

Others told him that he couldn't change the past, but could do his best to be a good husband moving forward.

Achie318 said: "I hope you are good to this woman. I hope you really and truly earn her love every day.

"It's a good thing that you are able to reflect back and see how wrong your intentions were. I'm glad that things changed for the better."

Fewstoriesocto commented: "You better redeem yourself giving this poor woman the best life she could imagine. Still a horrible way to start a relationship."

Djatacassie wrote: "You can make up for your mistake by being there for her, proactively loving her, giving her unconditionally, going out of your way to surprise her, buy her no-reason gifts, do small romantic gestures.

"If you are now genuinely in love, you can say sorry without saying sorry. Through actions."

Newsweek has reached out to u/Throwawaycam0 for comment.

Update 06/15/22, 7:31 a.m. ET: This article was updated to change the headline.