Man Slammed for Charging Wife's Family $25 Each To Attend Cookout: 'Livid'

A man has been slammed for billing every single member of his wife's family $25 to attend a cookout they hosted, while his relatives weren't charged.

The woman shared the fall-out to Reddit under username Attic-Lights5475, as she revealed she and her husband, 33, tied the knot seven months ago.

As they settled into married life, the 28-year-old explained they decided to host an event at their "huge house," which has a pool, which her husband inherited from his "wealthy family."

File photo of a cookout.
File photo of a cookout. A woman is seething after her husband charged her family $25 each to attend a cookout they hosted. william87/Getty Images

Both sides of the family came and she thought it was a success until her mom called.

She wrote: "She asked whether or not my husband took money from his family before they attended the cookout.

"I was confused I asked what she was talking about and she told me that my husband charged every single person from my side of family who attended the event $25.

"I was utterly shocked and very angry and felt like this has legitimately damaged my relationship with most of my family because, almost all of them came over. Not just that, but he got $275 dollars from them."

She was "livid" and went to confront her husband, who said: "He told me my family got to 'enjoy' the space and view and said that I should think of it as a 'resort' cookout since this house has lots of luxuries.

"I told him it was a horrible thing for him to do and that what made it worse is the fact the his family didn't pay like mine had to. He laughed then reminded me that his family gave him this house.

"I demanded he give the money back but he said no and that he won't even give it to me since the house is technically his."

She decided to take the money anyway and refunded her family with a "sincere apology," but her husband was furious.

"My husband found out and flipped out at me calling what I did an overstepping and disrespectful.

"I told him he shouldn't have taken money from my family for being guests at our house, but he corrected me saying it's his house and said that he'd bet my family had never got to attend a cookout at a house like this and that it was just $25 dollars but I disrespected him and went behind his back and took money that wasn't mine," she continued.

Ever since, they've not been speaking as she added he "keeps venting to his mom about me taking 'his' money that he earned his own way."

He told me my family got to "enjoy" the space and view and said that I should think of it as a "resort" cookout since this house has lots of luxuries."
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The post, which can be read here, has amassed more than 12,500 upvotes since being posted on Sunday, as people backed the wife.

Tysontysontyson1 commented: "I hope this isn't a true story, because your husband sounds like the worlds biggest AH. Needless to say, NTA. Your husband's reasoning makes no sense. Who charges people, let alone family, to come to their house and have a party? That's psychotic."

Top-Art2163 thought: "Yeah I'm already curious how large the Christmas Eve fee will be... I don't get why his mother didn't rip him a new one when he told her he charged his wife's family. But then again, she freaking created this monster!"

Mommato3boys66 advised: "She should divorce him and get half of that lovely house! (not sure she could but seriously what a jagoff she married!)."

Fakeyfake092 said: "This behavior is truly gross. Does he not work otherwise and so this is how he thinks he's going to 'earn' money? It's also very telling he didn't charge his family, but was very comfortable and ready to fight about charging OPs family."

Nibbler1999 pointed out: "That boy is not rich. His parents are."

Minneapple79 asked: "My first thought...why the hell did she marry this guy?"

While MeowGirly added: "Nta. Divorce him and cut your losses. He sounds like a stuck up and controlling jerk. You are married. That is your house too."

Despite a few people claiming she should divorce him to get half the house, it seems unlikely as the property was given to him by his family.

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While it's not clear where they're based, website Legal Assistance of Western New York explains in a divorce, usually both parties split the assets fairly.

Although they explained property bought within the marriage is a "marital property," anything you owned before, or is a gift solely to one party, such as an inheritance, is a "separate property."

The site said: "Separate property is property that one of the spouses owned before the marriage. For example, a bicycle that the wife had owned since before her marriage would be considered separate property. Any inheritance one spouse gets, even during marriage, is separate property. So are personal gifts (unless they came from the other spouse) and payments for personal injuries.

"Separate property can become marital property if it is mixed with marital property. For example, if one of the spouses uses money they had before the marriage to buy a house for the couple, that money might become marital property."

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