Man Slammed for Taking Phone Calls with His Mother Five Times While on Date

A man has been bashed online for taking his mother's calls five times during a date.

Published on Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum, a woman under the anonymous username u/mbj19758 shared her story to receive some feedback from the "AITA" community.

The original poster (OP) began her post by explaining that she recently went on a date with a man named "Jack." She wrote that she didn't know him well and had mutual friends.

She said they met at a café, "Now we had only gotten there...when he got a call from his [mom], no big deal, he took the call in front of me so i had no other option to hear what he was talking about. He told his mum that we had arrived & its all fine. i thought thats fine maybe he was anxious or something or his mum was wishing him luck."

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Above, a woman is embarrassed while on a date with a man. Published to Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum, a man has been bashed for taking five of his mother's phone calls while on a date. AntonioGuillem/iStock / Getty Images Plus

"We got talking & within half an hour his mum called again, he picked it up & gave her an update of everything we had talked about in the last 30 mins! it weirded me out but then she proceeded to call him 3 more times within 2 hours! & he would recap everything we had talked about right in front of me & then go back to conversation as if nothing had happened," she continued.

When OP brought up Jack and his mother's conversations, he admitted to her that he was a "mama's boy." She wrote that she was "weirded out" and decided to cut the date short and not go for dinner. Later on, she reached out to him explaining that she didn't see a future with him and he understood.

She confessed to telling her friends about how the date went. Apparently, when Jack asked out another girl, she turned him down and he found out that OP told them what happened on their date.

He called OP saying some "nice" words to her and argued that what happened was "private information." She wrote that she blocked Jack after she received more "nice" messages from him.

Newsweek reached out to u/mbj19758 for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.

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Dating a "mama's boy"

A "mama's boy" has a strong attachment to his mom and is overly dependent on her, Jaime Bronstein, an author and licensed therapist, told Newsweek.

"Boundaries and privacy are so important in relationships. If you feel that your significant other's parent is not respecting the privacy of your relationship, you need to communicate that to your significant other," Bronstein said.

The relationship expert suggests using "I" statements when having a discussion with your significant other. While using these statements, it can help your partner feel less defensive and respond more positively.

Amie Leadingham, a master certified relationship coach, told Newsweek that your partner's relationship with their mother is based on years of history. It will take time for them to develop a new dynamic with you. Sometimes, your partner might not notice the lack of boundaries in the way he was conditioned.

Leadingham also suggests open and honest communication and setting boundaries with your partner's mother together so she no longer interferes with your relationship.

"Ultimately, it is up to the couple to decide what works best for them and what that looks like. If you are struggling to deal with your partner's close relationship with his mother, it might be time to reach out to a helping professional for additional support to learn how to set healthy boundaries," she continued.

Redditor reactions

U/Lexi_The_G, receiving the top comment of over 12,000 upvotes, wrote "[Not the a**hole] He's publicly taking calls, how is that private information?"

"And I'm willing to bet that since his mom was the one CONSTANTLY calling him that she's one of the moms who decided no girl is good enough for her baby boy. They have an unhealthy relationship," u/Full_Neighborhood908 added.

"[Not the a**hole]. He was incredibly rude to take one, let alone five calls when on a date with you. Talking about you in front of you is also rude. The fact that he was talking to his mother about you should be a dealbreaker. You didn't lie—and you saved your friend the embarrassment of setting him up again. If he were prudent, he'd learn from his mistake," u/General_Relative2838 pointed out.

"[Not the a**hole]. You shouldn't be sworn to secrecy about his weird af behavior. You saved that other woman 3 hours of her life she couldn't have gotten back," u/chlorenchyma commented.

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