Man's 'Suspicious' Behavior After Car Accident Hospitalization Sparks Rage

Commenters criticized a man who got angry with his wife for taking his belongings—including his cell phone—while he was in the hospital after a car accident.

The anonymous woman, known as u/ThrowRAphone36, posted about her situation in Reddit's popular "Am I The A**hole" where it received nearly 11,000 upvotes and 1,800 comments.

How Technology Affects Relationships Today

A report published by Pew Research found that more than half of Americans in relationships said they've dealt with a partner being distracted by their cell phone.

Although seven in 10 Americans—both single and taken—said it is almost never acceptable to look through a partner's phone without their knowledge, about one in four Americans admit to having done it.

The research found that men are 25 percent likely to go through a partner's phone, while women are 45 percent likely.

Man acts suspicious toward wife after hospitalization
A woman said her husband got angry when he found out she took his phone while he was in the hospital. The woman said her husband suggested that his belongings should have gone to his mother. dusanpetkovic/iStock


In the post titled "AITA for keeping my husband's phone with me while he was at the hospital?" the 31-year-old woman said her 36-year-old husband was recently involved in a car accident.

"It wasn't serious but he was kept at the hospital for some time to run some tests and do check ups on him," the post read.

She said the only people at the hospital with him were her and his mother—neither are on speaking terms, according to the poster.

Nurses gave the woman her husband's belongings since he was undergoing several examinations and scans, including his cell phone.

"He came home and found out that I kept his phone (along with his other stuff) with me while he was at the hospital," the post read. "He picked a fight with me asking why I had possession of his phone without his consent (????) and that I should've let his mom keep it."

'He Verbally Lashed Out'

The woman explained that the nurses gave her his belongings to take home while he was in the hospital, but said he "verbally lashed out" and accused her of looking through his phone and "disrespecting" his privacy.

"I had no history of doing such thing, yes he claimed I did it in the past but I swear I never did," the post read. "Besides that his mom and I don't talk to each other and it never occurred to me to let her have his stuff, seemed a bit illogical to me."

Her husband added that she treated him as if he "had no authority" or "ability" to make decisions for himself, saying he could have told the nurses who he wanted to "entrust" his personal items with.

"He called me cruel for thinking like that while he was 'suffering' from the accident and being stuck in the 'f**king' hospital," the post read. "The argument got louder and eventually I had to step out of the room after his mom arrived and said I was stressing him out and need to give him space and use that time to 'reflect' on what I did."

The woman concluded the post by saying he's always been a "paranoid" and "private type" and that she isn't sure if she is wrong for keeping his phone.

Redditor Reactions

Nearly 1,700 users commented on the post, many supporting the woman and considering the possibility that her husband is cheating on her.

"NTA. But I can't be the only person who thinks he must be cheating right?" one user commented. "He didn't care if someone else (his mom) had his phone. He cared if YOU had his phone."

"Your husband lashed out at you for simply keeping his phone. Can anyone say red flags?" another user commented.

"It's common sense to give patient property to immediate family members. That means wife takes precedence over mother," another user commented. "Does he have something that he's hiding from his own wife for him to prefer that his mother keep his phone?"

"I'd be very surprised if this was the first time he's treated you poorly and I think you need to use your 'reflection time' to think about whether this marriage is serving you at all," another wrote.

Newsweek reached out to u/ThrowRAphone36 for comment.

In another viral Reddit post, a woman was supported for not paying for her husband's trip and another was backed for "ruining" her husband's birthday dinner.

But users were divided in one post after a woman had her husband arrested for taking her car without permission.