Mom Kicking Teen Daughter Out To Make Room for Her 'Hobby' Sparks Outrage

A mom who tried to throw her teenage daughter out without warning has been slammed online.

In a post shared to Reddit's Am I the A**hole forum on August 16, user u/itsssathroway explained that his wife had decided to talk to their daughter about "adult responsibilities"—which included moving out after her upcoming 18th birthday. The conversation didn't go well, upsetting the 17-year-old and causing a rift between him and his wife.

Financial Concerns

Research conducted by the Pew Research Center found a rise in the number of young adults living at home during the COVID-19 pandemic. By July of 2020, 52 percent of 18- to 29-year-olds were living with one or both parents, compared to 47 percent in 2019. Reasons included the economic downturn (with young adults particularly affected), job loss or college campuses closing.

However, the number of young adults living at home has been on the increase since 1960. With more people pursuing higher education, many students opt to stay at home to cut costs.

Mom Kicking Teen Out Sparks Outrage
A stock photo of a teenager sitting on her bedroom floor crying. The dad was disgusted to discover the real reason his wife wanted their teenage daughter to move out. KatarzynaBialasiewicz/iStock/Getty Images Plus

Recent census data showed that 58 percent of 18- to 24-year-olds still lived with their parents in 2021. For many people, the pandemic exasperated pre-existing financial concerns, with rent rising faster than income in many areas of the U.S.

'Priorities'

In his post, u/itsssathroway said he was unaware of his wife's plan and they had never discussed their daughter moving out.

He said: "Our daughter is turning 18 in October. She [is] a great kid, always pulled straight A's, never in any type of trouble and she's very respectful.

"My wife recently decided to have a talk with her about adult responsibilities. I had no knowledge of this conversation until my daughter came to me crying because she was scared about living on her own."

The wife had told the teen to start looking for a job so she can get her own place after her upcoming birthday. Appalled, the poster confronted his wife.

"She said our daughter wasn't a child anymore and needed our push to become an adult," he wrote.

"I asked my wife how does she expect our kid to make it on minimum wage, especially considering the rent is out of control in our area. She then informs me she had planned for us to pay half her rent until she was 20.

"I asked her, why she wanted our kid gone so bad. As the argument intensified, I believe she slipped by saying she needed the space (her bedroom) for her art studio."

The poster "couldn't believe" the reason the wife wanted their daughter to move out.

"I told my wife if her hobby was more important than our daughter, she should be the one looking to rent," he said. "However, she took that as me saying move out but that's not how I meant it.

"I was implying for her to rent more space for her studio, and to leave our daughter alone. She didn't believe that's what I actually meant, she then gave me the silent treatment for 3 days."

Since the argument, the mother's relationship with her daughter has become strained, with the teen struggling to process her emotions.

"She told me, 'I don't want to turn 18, I don't want to celebrate my birthday,'" he said.

"I picked the argument back up with my wife at that point. I said, 'Our daughter isn't moving out until she decides on her own terms because she is more important than you or your hobby.'"

Reddit users were shocked by the story, with the post receiving almost 8,000 upvotes and over 1,400 comments.

"18 may very well be the age you become an adult, [but] 18 is not [an] age where most people are prepared to live on their own," said stinstin555.

"It may be time to take a good hard look at your marriage. Putting an art studio ahead of a child's welfare and wellbeing is ludicrous."

False-Explanation702 agreed, commenting: "This is the hill to die on. You weren't that far off when you said maybe your wife should rent instead.

"How unbelievably cruel she is to her own child to prioritize an art room over her daughter."

While BonjourCheriex wrote: "Your wife's priorities are indeed skewed and I hope she recognizes how disgusting her actions are, and how she has forever harmed the trust your child ever had in her."

Newsweek has reached out to u/itsssathroway for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.

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