'Inconvenient and Expensive': Wedding Invite Banning Kids Branded 'Tone Deaf' Online

A mom has shared her dismay at being invited to two child-free weddings, with the wording on one invitation being branded "tone deaf."

The woman took to Mumsnet to share her ire, posting under JukEki, as she explained that both events were taking place in June.

She confirmed that she and her partner will be attending both, after "pulling favors for childcare."

But she vented her fury at being told the childless wedding is a chance to enjoy "a night of relaxation."

The mom, thought to be based in the U.K., wrote: "However I can't pretend that I'm not mildly irritated by the wording in one of the invites!

"One invite said 'Unfortunately bearing in mind we have limited guest numbers we cannot accommodate everyone's children however this is a golden opportunity for parents to enjoy a night of relaxation and uninhibited revelry!'

"The second simply said 'Whilst we love your children please note this is an adult only occasion.'"

She raged that while understanding the desire for a child-free wedding, she wished the request had been worded differently.

"The first annoyed me as actually it's not going to be relaxing for me in the slightest, it's quite inconvenient and expensive to not be able to bring the children and I'm more likely to be hand expressing in the toilets than dancing on a table.

"It is absolutely the couple's prerogative to have the wedding they want including making a decision to have no children—just own it and say so instead of dancing around it and pretending it's a night off for me," she added.

JukEki's post, shared on Monday, has already garnered hundreds of replies, as people weighed in on the situation.

While the decision not to have children at a wedding was understood, citing money and capacity as factors, most agreed the phrasing was in poor taste.

Whatsonmymindgrapes commented: "It bugs me when they make out that it's a huge favour to the parents when it's actually really inconvenient!"

Ceramide wrote: "The self-congratulation is the annoying part in both invitations. 'We've saved you any fuss—be grateful!' and 'Don't bring your children—be grateful!'"

MajorCarolDanvers thought: "First invite is smug and tone deaf. I get why you are irritated."

Ivyonafence stated: "I agree with you. I hate it when they try to pass it off as doing the guests a favour. It's a nuisance and an expense sorting childcare.

"I think the second wording is much better. I'm all for child free weddings, but as you say, just be frank about and don't dress it up as a favour."

PepInYourStep weighed in: "Yeah, I agree. A lot of wedding arrangements are very narcissistic (not specifically referring to child free weddings here).

"The wording in the first one was naff. Not everyone actually wants a night away from their small children either and certainly not at someone else's behest."

While Truthfullylying pointed out: "The thing with adult-only weddings is it gives you the perfect excuse not to go, so if it'll be a hassle then you can just decline."

But Fletchersromancing admitted: "I have 3 children but love a child free wedding and wouldn't bother me at all."

According to wedding website The Knot, child-free weddings can be a delicate subject for the bride and groom, particularly surrounding the wording used on invitations.

The website said: "You shouldn't feel guilty for keeping your wedding a kid-free zone, but it's not polite to specify your wishes front and center on the invitations. Doing that is the easiest way to ruffle feathers.

"Having a child-free wedding can be a very sensitive issue for some guests, especially out-of-town family members and close friends with little ones.

"For a more tactful approach, have your family, wedding party members and friends spread the word to guests by word of mouth so they have lots of time to secure a babysitter."

File photo of child and wedding invitation.
A file photo of a child next to a wedding invitation. A mom shared the wording of an invite to a child-free wedding, which was branded "tone deaf." Krit Kongjundee / Nadezhda1906/Getty Images